I’m looking for some outside perspective because this has been bothering me more than I expected. One of my best friends and one of my last close friends from high school and I had a huge fallout over a League of Legends game. We were duoing. I was jungle Sett (leave me alone I love sett and wanted a break from Kayn) and he was top Cho’Gath vs Renekton. Around 5 minutes in, I ganked his lane. My friend was extremely low HP literally double digits. During the gank, I killed the Renekton, then my friend right after immediately died to minions. After the play, my friend completely lost it. He said I “inted,” that Cho passive would’ve saved him, and that Renekton was silenced so I threw the fight. From that moment on, he was mentally done. For the next 35 minutes he kept saying the game was thrown, refused to focus, and immediately left the call after the game ended.
This bothered me enough that I went back into the replay and watched the fight frame by frame. What I found was that Renekton was not silenced, because it ended like half a second before I killed. Renekton had already hit W on my friend after comming out of silence which is what got him low. Renekton was in fury and about to get 2 more autos from furious W. I killed Renekton before those autos landed, which actually prolonged my friend’s life, even though he still ended up dying to minions. I called him back on discord and Im not gonna be dishonest I was quite provocative saying "It was impossible you kill renek there, Faker couldn’t have done anything when you claim he was silenced" I screen-shared the replay to him and showed him everything. His response was basically “I guess the game was never winnable anyway. Doesn’t change anything.” No apology. No self awareness. Nothing. I tried reaching out a few days later with a casual message about something unrelated a Pokémon TCG quest acting weird as an olive branch. It’s now been 3 days with no reply. What’s bothering me isn’t the game it’s that, He blamed me then when I proved it wasn’t me he refused to accept evidence and then never apologized and now seems to be ignoring me. This is someone I’ve known for years, and it feels insane that a single League game caused this much damage. Am I insane?
TL;DR Best friend of years blamed me for “inting” a League game after a gank. He mental boomed for the rest of the match and left the call. I reviewed the replay frame-by-frame and proved his claims were wrong, but he brushed it off, never apologized, and has now ghosted me for days. Unsure whether to reach out, give space, or accept the friendship might be over.
I’ll be honest I used to play a tiny bit of league for a while but it was against bots so this went mostly over my head as far as details 😂 but point is he thought you threw, you proved you didn’t, and he’s being a big baby from start to finish. NTA and i promise you don’t want a friend like that anyway!
Leave him a little bit to cool off and try reaching out again if he doesn’t. If he keeps ignoring you after a while just try doing other things but when he cames back if he does don’t let it slide. I also had my fight with friends over videogames, but we all eventually cool off after a week or so, sometimes less.
This is what is a life-altering problem for your generation?
We need to reinstate the draft.
The same shit used to happen over games of king of the hill on the schoolyard snow pile, quit your bitchin
This!
Mild YTA because you got super defensive and just \*had\* to be right, and you completely ignored how your friend was feeling. It feels like a ‘last straw’ situation for your friend, like you’ve put ‘being right’ or ‘winning’ over how he felt before.
He was mad and disappointed, and he wanted you to see that, and respond to that. To share a moment of bad emotion, because it would make him feel better. To support him, instead of focusing on you.
The other way it could have gone was for you to say, “aw, that sucked! I thought he wasn’t silenced and tried to help you. I’m bummed it turned out that way. Want to take a break and play something less intense for a bit?” (Notice how this is true, it doesn’t blame anyone, and no one is ‘right’ or ‘wrong’.)
What you could try now: “Hey man, I’m an idiot and I’m sorry. You were mad and frustrated, and I got defensive. I’ll try to do better in future.” and the \*follow up on that\* by thinking, “Am I focused on defending myself, or on supporting my friend?” when things get heated.
I would also recommend trying to hang out with this person in real life if you get a chance. Games, like cars, are places where people rage, and it’s not good for that to be your only contact with friends.
This. All of this.
I’d only add: OP, be prepared for your friend to refuse to reconcile no matter what.
I ended a 15 year old friendship over a stupid, miniscule “last straw” situation and even tho they tried to come back with an apology, the way they said it still reflected some of the personality issues I had with them; so I stood my ground and rejected their request to talk thru it in person. Frankly, I still feel so much lighter now that we haven’t spoken in almost 5 years now.
What about his friend who rage-quit and grieft the entire game over one play that didn’t go the way he wanted. It’s people like him who make League toxic.
Nta– this is not inting. Inting would be if you rushed in played badly and Renekton killed you both. You made a play and the only way cho would have been saved is if he ate him with his Ult to get more hp. His passive wouldn’t have saved him.