Background context:
I 24f, work at an animal shelter caring for all types of animals and I regularly take home animals to foster. The focus of this story are a group of kittens I have fostered and raised for several months.
I live with a 25nb named Spencer who is my flatmate and regularly has their friend Trevor over at the flat. (fake names for privacy reasons)
This all started a couple months ago. The kittens have started to walk and play so Spencer and Trevor have started playing with them. Trevor fell in love with one of the kittens and decided they wanted to adopted but this was where things got odd.
Spencer my flatmate, already has a cat who is currently living with Trevor as emergency placement. ( Spencer’s cat cannot live with dogs and I own a dog, and decided months after their break up they wanted the cat back) They decided that Trevor would adopt the kitten but my flatmate Spencer would look after it at our flat until Spencer has moved into a new flat and they would do a “cat swap”.
I immediately told them to email the adoption team at my work as I did not want to be involved with an adoption of someone I knew and they needed to follow the correct application process. They never did. Months go on and somehow Spencer and Trevor become convinced that this adoption will go through despite me constantly reminding them they need to contact my work and follow the adoption application process.
The day comes for me to take the kittens back to my work for them to be desexed. Post op, I ask Spencer to give me Trevors’s number so the team can talk to them. When the team rings Trevor they say may not be able to afford the adoption fee but they put in an application in using my address which is known to the team as a staff member address.
Ultimately, the team decided on welfare grounds this may not be the best fit for the kitten. Due to Trevor not having the funds to adopt the kitten (how are they possibly going to afford to take care of it if they can’t afford the adoption fee) and the address provided on the application not being Trevor’s address but my own.
My team told me they had declined the application. So now at home the awkwardness has began. The day the news broke, I had a friend over and when Spencer came home they said hi to my friend but didn’t talk to me. This has lead to a 2 day silence where they only talk to my dog, who is basically always around me but arent talking to me about anything. AITA?
Edit: have corrected all names to match each other
NTA. But I think your roomie expected the kitten for free through you.
NTA. They are being ridiculous. What did they expect was going to happen if they weren’t willing to commit to the adoption?
NTA. No one who doesn’t have 100 to adopt a pet should be getting into a 10-15 year commitment to take care of that pet.
NTA, they clearly expected a free pet discount off of you and are being passive aggressive about it.
You guys are adults. Ask if there’s something wrong. If he tries to say something, you had nothing to do with it, because you didn’t
I’ve tried asking if they are okay and got nothing back? So idk
NTA. You weren’t involved in the decision in any way, it’s not your fault they weren’t allowed to adopt the kitten
(Ps, I think you used real names at one point in your story, might need to edit that)
NTA. You told both Trevor and Spencer the proper protocols and they chose on their own to not only procrastinate on them, but then provided incorrect info (ur address instead of theirs)
NTA. It was your team that declined the application. You don’t owe anything to anyone.
I think you forgot to change some names. There are two people mentioned in the middle who are neither Trevor nor Spencer.
NTA. I can’t believe these people are adults. They are behaving like 8 year olds.
NTA. You explained the process to them. They didn’t follow it. And they used your address. They made all the choices. Their fault.
Soooo many red flags there….
So I take it they used to be a couple (“wanted the cat back etc”)
Can’t settle on responsibilities.
Willing to treat living creatures as accessories or trinkets? (“cat swap”? WTF?)
Can’t be fk’d to get paperwork done, when they do, fudge details
want the pretty fluffy entertainment thing but unable to afford the base cost, to say nothing of the upkeep
Total NTA I’m glad the kitten has a chance for a more responsible forever home.