(sorry for my english it ain’t my main language) I M16 live with my mom and my brother only, my mom decided to get a dog without consulting me or my brother and i absolutely don’t want it. My mom is rarely home so i have to take care of him,and i do because i’m not that much of an asshole but its still gets on my nerves the dog is cute but it’s way too clingy and i don’t have one moment alone i can’t even shower or go the toilet without it crying and barking for me to comeback would that be selfish if i tell my mom that i don’t want it ? i want the dog to have a real family that loves him and do everything he need and i’m not the person for that unfortunately
Info: do you help around the house a lot and this dog adds work? Or does your mom do most of the housework?
Does the dog make your mom happy?
Is your dad around helping?
1. i do help around the house most of the time, my mom is rarely there and when she is she just come back from work tired so most of the time i cook and clean so kinda yea the dog makes it most difficult
2. Yeah it makes her happy she grew up with a similar dog so i guess that’s why she wanted him
3. Not really i don’t live with him since i’m 7yo and even him don’t want to visits me at my home like he used to because of the dog
If you do a ton around the house, maybe you can ask your mom to hire a dog walker to take some pressure away (or a house cleaner to help with chores)
Either way, if the dog makes your mom happy, I think YWBTA if you completely rejected the idea of having the dog
we clearly don’t have enough money for that, in fact we don’t even have money for a dog.. i literally don’t get why my mom keeps on doing things like this i usually feel like i’m the adult in the house but it’s become more and more true as the times pass i mean she literally brought a dog on a whim
Is your mom never home because she is always working to support you and your brother? Or are there other reasons for her always being gone? Is she gone all day working then comes home to cook and clean and take care of the house by herself? Or do you and your brother help take care of the home? Do you have other chores in the house or is taking care of the dog the only thing you do?
If that’s the case then why is she adding to her financial burden instead of cutting back on hours.
my mom only works 3 days a week the rest of the time she’s either at my sister’s place or with her friends, and i do most of the chores in my house except maybe the dishes cause it kinda gross me out and she’s okay with having to care only about the dishes when she’s here
In that case your mom is the AH for prioritizing everyone other than the kids living in her home. Tell her you don’t want the dog and if she wants it she needs to be home taking care of it.
NTA but do not take your frustrations out on the doggo, whatever you do. Just saying.
i wont, im not mad at him for just being there and wanting a family im mad about the fact that i can’t provide everything he needs
💞 good deal, and yes, talk to your mother about it..
You are not an asshole. Open a conversation with your mom. The dog deserves someone to play with, train, and cuddle it. Does your mom take do those things when she is home? What are her plans for when you move out and aren’t there to care for it? What is best for the dog?
You and your brother should leave the house for a long day. Leave food and water for the dog, but don’t come back till after your mother comes home. Probably the dog will pee and s*** all over the house and your mother will have to clean it up. My then, maybe the light will come on.