I am currently a college student and i spent New Year’s Eve in my hometown. I got a NYE party invite from a hometown friend and i texted a close HS friend the day before to see if she would want to come with me. She said she was going to spend the night with her friends and didn’t invite me to go with them even though i was friends with all of them as well. I ended up making plans with other people instead of going to the party so i never asked the host for the address.
The next day my HS friend that refused to go with me texted me unexpectedly asking for the address of the party so all of them could go without me. I told her i wasn’t going to ask someone the address of a party i’m not even going to especially because the invite didn’t come from someone i talk to on a daily basis. She insisted, so i ended up asking for the address anyways but when i gave the host her friends’ names (he asked), he stopped responding to me. Turns out some of the people she was bringing with her had been uninvited from the party. Then she got mad at me for giving their names and i called her out for using me and putting me in a bad spot with the host. AITA for not wanting to get the address for them and give their names?
NTA – this all seems very immature tbh. You shouldn’t have asked or offered to give the address to someones home you don’t really know.
The people asking should have been on good enough terms with the host to know where the party was or to contact the host themselves.
They also have zero reason to be mad at you for doing more than you should have.
NTA it wasn’t your event to extend invitations and her other friends had been specifically excluded by the host
NTA. She’s not your friend.
I think YTA, but not because you didn’t give her that address. It’s because you tried to. Next time don’t be a messenger like that. Respect that a party host invites people they want there.
I felt like this too. But the host was very happy when i asked him if some of my friends could go. He only stopped responding when i specifically gave this other girl’s name.
ESH. You can’t give out invites to a party that’s not yours so the host is right to be angry with you. The other person is not your friend.
NTA. HS friend wasn’t invited,so she shouldn’t have asked you for the address. And when you said no,she shouldn’t have bugged you for it.
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Info: Did you ask the person throwing the party if you could invite the other friend in the first place?
If not definitely YTA
yes! he said he’d be more than happy to have them then asked their names when i told him that he would probably know them from high school. then he didn’t respond when i gave her friends’ names.
Then friend B is a drama Llama and you should avoid her.
YTA. You kept your invitation hanging while you schemed to make other plans, and it all blew up in your face.
it wasn’t a one on one invitation like a text message i had to reply to. it was just a flyer posted on a private story. nobody one the other side was waiting for my response i was just made aware that i was welcome to go. I also didn’t want to go to a party alone that i knew was going to involve a lot of drinking because it didn’t feel safe which is why i ended up making other plans.