AITA? So, long story short, my sister has been with her boyfriend since 2012 and they usually host holidays. I’ve offered, because I like to cook, but I get turned down. So the turkey is always terrible, it’s always just dried out white meat that is offered to us and it’s been this way for years. This past Thanksgiving I asked for a piece of dark meat and my sister got really flustered. You’d have thought I asked to be served her first born on a platter. She was like “my boyfriend likes the dark meat,” and then she tried to give me this shriveled gonad looking thing and I said “I just want a piece of dark meat that some skin on it,” and I went into the kitchen to get it myself. The boyfriend had literally PEELED the turkey and put all the skin aside for himself along with the dark meat. This didn’t deter me; I just flipped the carcass over because there is always skin on the bottom people forget about. But since this happened, I can’t get over it. Is it just me or is that the rudest, low class, most bizarre thing you ever heard? Then again, I am the guest so maybe I’m TA here. Just wondering. I may be staying home and making my own turkey for Christmas.
NTA because you’ve offered to host and they want to keep a normal part of the meal to themselves.
That’s like inviting people over for cake and then scraping off all the icing into a bowl before serving it.
If it’s more family than just you, they should let you host and peel themselves an extra bird at home.
NTA. Maybe you need to make your own turkey to enjoy at home. I wouldn’t trust one that had the skinny al pulled off. Besides, that’s nasty.
NTA. They’re hosting a family holiday – there are two legs and two thighs on a turkey. Homie doesn’t need all that. And all the skin? GTFO that’s the best part.
My most peaceful, least stressful holidays are the ones in which I spend with my wife and no one else
NTA. That’s honestly weird and a red flag. After that. I’d just be having my own Thanksgiving at home. Do a drop by to say hi early, then head on home for some good turkey – dark meat with skin included.
NTA. It’s Thanksgiving – the turkey is kinda the star of the show. To host and then deny guests any dark meat or a bit of skin is rude and weird. If I invite you over for pizza but picked all the fucking pepperoni off it – yeah it’d be weird and I’d be an asshole.
You make a very good point there
I literally gasped. I can’t believe I did that. But I literally gasped when you suggested going over to someone’s place for pizza and the host picked all the pepperoni off of it for themselves.
Edit: I feel like I’m ready to fight someone after reading that
NTA that man is a psycho
I think it must be a cultural issue (individualistic vs. collective?). In my culture, just the idea of taking ‘the best part’ of a meal and keeping it for yourself is absolutely unthinkable.
I think it would be considered rude in many cultures to keep the best part of a meal for yourself and serve your guests the less desirable portions.
Even in an individualistic culture, this specific situation is ridiculous. If you invite guests over for a nice meal, then you wouldn’t do this kind of thing.
It’d be one thing if it was a more casual meal that had like premade sandwiches with slices of light meat in them, but if it’s a holiday dinner with a full turkey being made for the occasion, then this would be considered wild to do.
No this is rude as fuck in “individualistic culture” as well. Just because you’re from a western culture with an emphasis on individualism doesn’t mean you’re a selfish turkey hogging asshole.
Or a bad cook. Turkey doesn’t have to be so freaking dry.
NTA. Turkeys aren’t sold only in November and December. He can buy one and cook it up any time he wants.
Why does everyone want to go to their place? You can just refuse to go, just like they refuse to attend yours. You’re not doing yourself any favors by showing up. No one else likes that turkey, either.