Hello everyone. So I got married around 2.5 years ago, my wife is from Turkey. She refused to live in Turkey because she doesn’t like the quality thre so we came to my country (Serbia). The problem is she wants to live in a big city which is only Belgrade here and it is extremely expensive. She is not social, she doesn’t want to learn the language, doesn’t want to work, we split chores at home (other than meal she makes the meals). I am single provider and even though I have a good salary compared to an avergae in my country it is hard to live a “luxury” life with it. We can’t buy a house because she doesn’t like houses that don’t look luxury… We also kinda escaped from Turkey since she has family trauma and her family was against her marrying a foreigner so we didn’t have a proper engagement and now she feels that it needs to be repayed buy a very expensive ring. When I tell her that we don’t have 7-8€ to throw away on a ring (my salary is 1000€) she starts saying how I don’t think she deserves it and how expensive things are there to show you love someone. Am I really the asshole she makes me to be when I tell her she needs to show some work at least learn a language or be more understandable with expenses since she wants me to sel my property to buy jewerly and travel the world which I don’t consider a smart investment when we still don’t have our own house…
My friend… You are being used. 🌹 Let her go and find someone who wants to build a life together with you.
If she doesn’t work then what is she doing all day? You’re NTA for not giving her expensive items when youre only just surviving on your pay check. You need to have important conversations about her working and what the future will look like, otherwise it may be in your own best interest to think about a divorce.
NTA clear gold digger run bro and tell her get a job.
No YNTA.
But she sounds like a high maintenance woman. Likes to live like a queen with zero effort. All at your expense.
Can you take her back?
NTA. Wake up!! You married a GOLD DIGGER. Make her get a job or threaten to send her back to Turkey. Serbia is in the EU. An EU citizenship is very desirable. She’s not going to jeopardize losing you if you are a ticket to living in the EU.
Maybe or he could just be honest and say I married you because I love you not because I want to treat you like my child. I want a real partner in life and someone who contributes. While I love to buy you things it’s about doing so in a way we can afford and hopefully one that makes you feel beautiful. If I can’t provide that then maybe we are not a match.
Serbia is not in EU. I mean she still would like to get the passport to travel easier since Turks need visa everywhere and I also want her to get it but not a primary thing for me in marriage…
Yeah. Agree with others. Your her meal ticket. It’s financial abuse. She will run you into the ground to pay for everything she wants. Get you into debt. Then when you can’t give anymore she’ll likely leave and start again with another man. She doesn’t love you. She just want you to pay for a luxury lifestyle. Your her ATM nothing more sadly.
Bro, run, put her in a plane to turkey and block.
NTA. “how expensive things are there to show you love someone.” What expensive things has she bought you to show you she loves you I wonder! This woman is a drain – either she starts contributing towards the life she “requires of you” or shuts up!
If it were me, I’d leave her.
Pack her bags and send her back! She is trying to live above her means, demanding luxury while unemployed.
Please dump her lazy, entitled ass. This is not sustainable, she will bleed you dry. There are so many people in the world and you’ll find a woman who is outgoing, sociable and contributes to a shared life together
NTA leave her before she babytraps you.