This is about Illy, a person who appeared frequently on Drumsy’s channel, for anyone familiar.
If you aren’t familiar, Illy was born with a chronic illness called cystic fibrosis, which affects the lung and pancreas.
The following is the exchange shared in the comments on the video about her passing. Do not seek out either of us, please.
Me: I have CF too. Katie had so much of an impact on me, staying so hopeful and happy despite it all. It’s so scary how fast this disease can change things. I’m gonna miss her so much, but I’m glad we all made her happy while she was here. Rest in peace, Katie.
Other commenter: The video isn’t about you, it’s sad you have it, I say that, but it’s not about you. The world doesn’t stop for one person.
Me: I was never trying to make it about me. I was worried someone might misconstrue it that way, though. I posted this comment because I had hoped someone else with CF would see it and not feel so alone.
NTA the other commenter is being extremely parasocial and toxic towards you. I’m sorry to hear about your illness <3
NTA. Someone passed away and you made a comment about what she meant to you. That’s how things are supposed to work.
You’re not the asshole, your comment was sweet and I’m sorry someone responded that way but unfortunately that’s the way some people are on the internet at times. Don’t let them change the fact that you’re spreading good on the internet when something bad/tragic has happened. People who need to see that comment hopefully will.
I’m glad there was a creator out there that made you feel like you weren’t alone and its entirely possible someone does see your comment and appreciates the fact that they still have people in their corner. Wishing you the best OP.
Thank you so much. It was hurting a lot that I could understand where they were coming from. Honestly I don’t entirely believe they were the asshole either. Just grieving, same as many of the fans are right now, maybe they just don’t know how to handle it as well?
Grief is tough for people, and the worlds changed to a point that we can grieve people we never really met and were streamers or content creators who made an impact on our lives. Your instincts are probably right, just someone, another fan, unable to figure out how to react to things. Just let it be water under the bridge and hold hope your comment reaches the right people.
Mhmm. Grieving people is a lot harder when you never got the chance to meet them I feel. I genuinely hope they can find happiness, despite the rude comment they deserve it.
NTA, people are pretty horrible online sometimes. Most people linger online because they’re not happy.
That’s very true. I genuinely hope that person finds happiness, because I could tell they were hurting. Truthfully I have a hard time blaming them entirely. Grief has a way of bringing out the worst in some people, but that doesn’t mean they truly meant it, y’know?
NTA. You made an honest and kind comment for someone who just passed that mattered to you and made a difference in your life. The other commenter has no ground to stand on in this conversation.
NTA. Art’s only objective is to connect people, make them feel seen, help them make sense of the world. Sounds like that’s exactly what Katie did for you, and I don’t know if she ever had the chance to hear your story while alive, but I bet she’d say the same if she did.
Truth is, this beautiful connection isn’t cherished as much as it should, and too many people out there become weirdly possessive about someone else’s creations. They think of them as nothing but entertainment, mindless monkeys to dance for them at their beck and call. They think it’s all about them, the audience. Don’t let that get you down. They will never care about you, so don’t waste a minute of your time thinking about them.
Keep Katie alive in your way. Watch her videos, her VODs, listen to her friends in the community reminisce. Nothing else matters.
NTA you absolutely did not make that about you at all. i can’t even reach as far as they did to come to that conclusion. you shared an honest thought about how this youtuber impacted your life, and if anyone from her life were to read that i am sure they would be touched to know how much people appreciated her.
i wish you the best and hope you are on / able to look into some of the newer treatments for CF to help you live as long a life as you can.
Thank you so much! And also yeah, I’m on trikafta, it’s (to my knowledge) the best we have right now! Not a complete cure, but it helps a lot!
NTA! Your illness is yours to share. I’m sorry you got that reaction. I know that people with CF often look to other people who have the illness as well, to see how they cope and I totally get how it affects you (more than the usual viewer probably). CF sucks.