I am the state director of compliance for our company. I got a quarterly report from one of my compliance managers, and the scores for training for a couple of the sites were pretty bad. I called her and asked what had happened, and she told me she had asked for training files for employees, it took them days to get them to her, and when she tried to ask about why there were issues, the trainer couldn’t really give her an answer about what was going on. I asked her if she had talked to the training manager (boss’s son) and she said she didn’t because she didn’t really see him there. I told her I would talk with him to see if we could get more information because it definitely seemed like something was going on, and I wanted to make sure we had the whole story. She agreed.
I called him, explained the situation, and asked if we could go over the findings together to see what was going on before the report was finalized and sent out to everyone. He initially agreed, but then every time I tried to meet with him, he bailed on me last minute, eventually just saying to send him a list of the issues and he would look into it. I sent him the list, and he handed me the files to look at on my own.
The only thing wrong with her report was there were some things that weren’t filed yet because they were switching to an electronic record system, and they didn’t want to print and file something that was going to have to be uploaded anyways. Which made complete sense. I tried to follow up with the training manager about the issues that were there, and he just brushed me off, saying it is what it is, and he understood there were problems. We finalized our report and submitted it.
Later on, one of the other state directors asked me about a report that was done by the compliance manager I don’t supervise (his best friend). I talked to my boss about it, and she asked me to look into it and get back with her. The complaint was right. There were things they had until the end of the month to do, but she did her review in the middle of the month, and whatever they hadn’t done by that time, she hit them for.
I called my boss and told her what I found, and she lost it. She went off about how I pick and choose what I want to pay attention to. She then brought up the issue with training, and said that no one talked to them about anything. I tried to tell her what had happened, but she just kept talking over me about how it wasn’t done the right way. I just got off the phone with her as quickly as I could.
Ever since that conversation, just about every day has been a melt down over those two things. We had a regional meeting, and she had an absolute meltdown about the training situation in front of everyone. She said it was our fault that they had deficiencies two quarters in a row, and we should be ashamed.
I honestly don’t know what I did wrong. But she is adamant that I am the problem. Am I the asshole here?
NTA but your boss sure is and is absolutely hiding something. Does your boss have a boss?
NTA. You basically did your job, but the boss is hiding something and knows that it won’t be long until it’s discovered.
NTA but honestly I’m lost, what did you do about the son? Why is she accusing you of picking and choosing when both situations involve you ensuring things are being done correctly? In what way is she having a melt down, just ranting in public?
Your boss is clearly being weird and any sort of melt down when you’re just doing your job puts her in asshole territory but I can’t really follow the details clearly.
I did confront the son after this. I’ve caught him in a few lies several times, and there’s been a lot of times where she will call me upset over something that I’ve done that’s related to him, and it’s no where close to what actually happened. I asked him why I keep hearing about these situations where he’s involved, but it’s not ever close to accurate. He was adamant that she only asked if my staff had talked to him. He said he told her my staff didn’t, but I tried to. But once again, he lies often.
She was saying that I’m so hard on him, but I want to be lenient on other programs when it comes to stuff that the other compliance manager does.
I guess she thinks I pick on him? A similar thing happened about a year ago when we were getting ready for a state audit, and he said his files were perfect. I looked at them, and every single one of them had problems. Two of them weren’t even half way put together. It looked like we hadn’t done any training updates at all for the past year and a half, which I knew wasn’t true because I had been in them. I talked to him about it, and he said he would get it fixed, but then went hunting at their property for the rest of the week. I was obviously livid, and ended up having to fix everything myself. Her response was I needed to stop being so hateful, and at the end of the day, there were no deficiencies so why did it matter.
The regional meeting has every department head that’s involved in the state. So clinical, medical, education, operations department heads. The other VP that works along side her. All of my staff were there too. She had an entire agenda item dedicated to how my department wasn’t looking at stuff the way they needed to, that no one talked to training at all, and she verified it never happened, and they’ve had deficiencies over the past two quarters because we don’t try to work with them.
Got it thanks for explaining. Still NTA at all. Sounds like Boss is coddling her kid in a particularly bad example of nepotism unfortunately.
NTA, this is why hiring your friends and relatives is generally a no no.
Ah nepotism at its best
Start documenting everything and talk to HR if they are going to pin the problem on you when it is their son you need a long paper trail.
when the radar is scrambled, you can bet your ass that enemy planes are flying over your territory.
use the word “fraud”. tell that the willingness to hide what is happening is the best clue that somethink is fishy. the complicity with their family is another clue. they can cooperate now to show that the process is essentially wrong . Or you can do it by yourself and search a culprit. if your boss want you to hide the dust under the rug, you want this in written, because you won’t be held responsible of others’ misconducts.
NTA. Sounds like your boss thinks compliance means ‘blame someone else’… not actual compliance
NTA and CYA.
I’m confused. What’s the actual issue here?
You didn’t do anything wrong, but the boss sure is being unethical. NTA.
Also, probably time to find a new job. They’ve shown you what they’re all about at the current one.