so today me and my sister and her friend (both are 3 years older than me) decide to hangout today and my sister says I can’t come with unless I pay for my own stuff, so I say I have money from Christmas, and she’s like how much? and I tell her like $64 , and she basically says that she’s broke and that that is enough for me and her, (mind you I don’t have a job and she does, and I was planning on saving the rest of the money, but I also want to hang with her) so I say ok, thinking we might go somewhere cheap. we end up going to Texas Roadhouse and she orders a steak and some fancy drink, I don’t say anything because im to scared at her getting mad at me, so the bill between me and her costs $57, I ordered some cheap sandwich btw, so I end up going home with only like 7 bucks left, hours later she goes out with the same friend and she went and got food, so how come she has money now all of a sudden, im pissed off about this, she knows I don’t have a job and didn’t want to spend much, so why can she buy food now, but couldn’t earlier? am I an asshole for being angry about this, and should I bring this up to her and ask for my money back?
side note she does also pay for me most of the time we go out, but I always get something cheap and its never over $30 for both me and her.
If she pays for you all the time you can pay for her one time. It’s fine. Don’t be cheap.
No you are not the A-hole. Hope this is a good lesson though that it isn’t worth it to hang out with her when she clearly only uses you for an atm. When me and my older sister go out(same situation shes three years older and has a job while i don’t) we both argue over who gets to pay, it usually ends with us both paying for ourselves. Do not hang out with her anymore, she just used you and I feel disgusted just reading about that. Sisters should not use each other like that or at all.
YTA because once she asked you to pay for her that was the time to tell her how much you would be willing to spend. If you wanted to do $15 pp (since that’s usually what you do when you both go out) then you could’ve communicated that.
NTA For the simple fact she lied and said she was broke. My sister also has paid for me a lot over the years and I have treated for her as well, but she’s never taken advantage of the fact. As for asking her about it, that’s up to you. If she’s paying your way most of the time, I would just let it go.
NTA. She took advantage of you because you wanted to hang out with her. Hang out with your real friends and let your sister pay her own way with her friends. She should pay you back, but she probably won’t. Don’t fall for it again.
NTA you should be expect to pay for her and anyone who says otherwise has no brain
NTA she took advantage of you because you wanted to hang out with them.
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INFO: How old are you? If you don’t realise it already, clearly your sister is taking advantage of you. Stand up for yourself more, unless she’s soooo great that you’d happy pay her to spend time with her.
You’re not an asshole, you’re just cheap.
Your sister pays for you frequently, cheap or not, that adds up over time. The one time she wants you to pay, you’re now upset?
Your sister is an asshole for spending so much when you’re splitting $60 but then again…..
If this bothers you, then pay for your own stuff going forward.
Also so cheap there was no tip left 😬
NTA but you need to learn to set boundaries and enforce them. Don’t say yes if you don’t wanna do it. Even if you’re worried about her getting mad.
nta, your sister took advantage of the situation by having you spend almost all your money on an expensive meal, knowing you don’t have a job. Your anger is justified. It’s okay to calmly bring it up and explain how it made you feel, and in the future, set a clear spending limit to protect yourself.