So I had given money to a guy knew from my apartment building which he had vacated a day prior to this.
On 25 Dec ‘ 2025 , he called me begging for money for some college fees and told me he would give me cash that evening.
Being helpful to people as I myself have been in such situations, I sent the money online.
Then he ghosts me "completely". I call him multiple times for 3 weeks. He never picked up my call for once. On 16th Jan (21 day after i gave him money) I call him from my friend’s number and he picked up and says he’ll return it in 4 days.
4 days go by and dead silence again from his side.
I again call him using multiple of my friends number but no response.
Now its 23rd Jan and 3 days from 26th Jan( national holiday).
He is in NCC (kind of military training programme). So , he had to be present in a parade on 26th. That was my only option to contact. I meet him after parade. I am totally non-confrontational guy so still talk to him very cordially. He gives me all the lame excuses and then ask for more time. I agree but I take his father’s contact info in case he ghosts me again. Its 28th Jan today and I still don’t have my money back.
He has given me 5 deadlines but keeps delaying.
I gave him my money as he said he will give it back in 4 to 5 hours. Its 1 month and 3 days today and I haven’t gotten it back.
Should I call his father and ask money back from him…?
AITAH if I call his father for money.
That money is GONE. You could call the father but I can’t fathom it would help. NTA.
NTA, guy scammed you. Call his parentd
You gave a bunch of money to a dude you just knew around your apartment building who doesn’t even live there anymore, and you’re still being nice to him despite being burned? Come on, man. How dumb can you get? You better learn how to adult pretty soon, or you’re in trouble. Yeah try calling his Dad, but I wouldn’t count on much happening. This just might be an expensive lesson on learning to be a responsible adult. NTA, just dumb.
My thoughts exactly
NTA. You probably won’t get the money back though.
Call his dad and prepare for a write up of loss on your taxes. Push his family though. How much was it for – that decides if you can file small claims or grand theft.
NTA for calling the father.
YTA to lend the money and believe you would get it back easily.
”Wallet Inspector.”
Do you think he gave you his dads number? Have u tried ringing it.
Whenever I read about people “loaning” money to random people, it just fascinates me. I would never say yes, unless I never expected to see it again and I was fine with that. Regardless, sure, try calling the dad. The number is likely as fake as the deadline he gave you.
NTA. I worry about you in a world with internet scams and everyday grifters.
NTA. I don’t think it’s fair to contact his dad tho, and there’s no assurance he’ll pay his son’s debt but sure, knock yourself out.