throwaway account cause i’m obviously not wanting this person to find me lol. i was at the james marriott gig with my mum last night & i had standing tickets for the pit. this was my first ever time being in a pit at any concert/gig & i was on the outskirts of the far right side trying to fit into any empty gap i could cause obviously i wanna get as close as possible to the barrier hello! i was in like the outer ring of people, as in there was barely anyone behind me, and three or so people in front of me to my right left the crowd, and so i moved forward and stood in the new space. this is what i need help with! should i have moved into this space after the people have left, or should i have just stayed where i was? because the person in front of us turned around and with a heavy amount of attitude said "my friends are coming back by the way" while playing on like a 3ds. im obviously taken aback cause i wasn’t paying enough attention to these people to notice that they were her friends & i also can’t mind read so i assumed they were leaving to go find another spot or something & were in fact not going to come back to that exact spot? is that a me issue? like is that a normal thing? to just leave the pit and expect everyone to leave an open gap for you to come and go as you please?? genuinely asking here
my mum moved closer to her and just asked "are you ok?" and she responded once again with attitude repeated herself saying her friends are coming back. me and my mum were just looking at each other after this in confusion as her friend stared blankly at me & they all acted upwardly offended that i decided to exist in that space.
at one point my mum was taking her coat off & the poster i bought that was sticking out of her bag was lightly grazing the girls shoulder – cause surprise surprise were all in a tightly packed pit rn – and she glared at my mum & looked at her friends that were next to her in the pit to seek some kind of validation? they didn’t give a shit. i gently moved the poster away from her shoulder though so she could quit being a pansy.
when her friends finally came back she loudly said "someone stole your spot im sorry" "just push past her" while genuinely YANKING her friends trying so damn hard to squeeze them past my poor mum who was just trying to mind her own business. a couple more weird looks from her friends was the final straw for me so i just told my mum i want to move & we got out that part of the pit & found somewhere else to stand cause i just couldn’t spend the whole concert next to people who think they own a part of the floor.
because ive never been in a pit before in any scenario i just need to ask, am i the asshole? is her little strop about losing her friends space justified? imo i think if she wasn’t fucking rude & overly dramatic about it all there would be no issue but this just really irked me and borderline ruined my first ever pit experience. idk. i’ll let you guys decide. who’s the asshole?
NTA it’s totally normal to move into the space that someone left cause you don’t know what’s going on. Then after she said something just saying hey sorry didn’t realize and take a step back, some people can just be rude about little things. More than likely at any place I’ve been in the pit and a space has been made even if I don’t move into it someone will just because of the shuffling of the crowd as people are listening and moving around.
NTA. In a pit, if someone leaves, their spot is up for grabs. They don’t own the floor. You didn’t do anything wrong, she was just being entitled.
That’s literally the whole point of the pit. No reservations. If they wanted their spot held… they should have purchased seats
NTA, moving from your spot runs the risk of it being taken. Hell I’ve been at plenty of gigs where I DIDN’T move and had my space shrink from people pressing in. Those people you were near have some sort of delusion lol
NAH for GA shows, empty spots are “up for grabs”.
However, friends trying to save the spot for someone who was already in the spot and left to grab another beer or hit the bathroom is an acceptable practice.