This is going to sound pretty dumb because it is but i’m genuinely wondering if I’m in the wrong. My wife and I will call each other pet names (outside of the regular babe or baby) from time to time mostly as a joke. One of the names i’ll say sometimes is princess. Well tonight we were on the phone about to go to sleep and after I said goodnight she jokingly said “no you need to say goodnight my beautiful princess”. Its something she’s done before and we’ll have this fun push and pull until I say whatever it is.
For context I live in a barracks and I recently got a new roomate after not having one for a long while. The room is small, we can each hear everything the other person says or does.
When she said that, I continued joking around and refused to say it. We went back and forth for a bit until she gave up and said goodnight. I thought it was fine until she texted me a minute later saying “the fact you actually refused to say it is upsetting”.
I replied that it just felt a bit embarrassing. Which she replied “embarrassing is crazy”. I retracted the statement and said it just felt like private talk to me and that I didn’t want to have with my roomate hearing it all. She just replied with “it’s fine, goodnight” in that dismissive way where I know she’s still upset.
AITAH for not wanting to call my wife a pet name around my roomate?