AITAH for refusing to give my mom money from my part-time job after she keeps asking even though she has a full-time salary?
**Post:**
I (19F) started college this year and work 20–25 hours a week at a campus café to cover my phone bill, textbooks, bus pass and some food/clothes. My mom pays tuition and rent (which I’m very grateful for), but she has a good full-time job and no big debts.
The last few months she started asking me for money almost every week: $50 for groceries, $30 for gas, $80 “for the electric bill because it’s higher this month”, etc. At first I sent it because she said “family helps each other” and I felt guilty. But I noticed she’s still buying new clothes, going out to eat with friends, getting her nails done, etc.
Last week she asked for $120 “to help with Birthday gifts for your little brother”. I said no, I’m already eating cheap noodles some days so I can afford my own textbooks, and I don’t think it’s fair that I’m funding her extras while working full-time hours on top of classes.
She got really upset, called me selfish and ungrateful, said “after everything I’ve done for you” and that “a good daughter would help her mom”. Now she’s giving me the silent treatment and telling my aunt and grandma that I’m “too big for my boots now that I’m in college”.
I feel awful because I love her, but I’m exhausted from working and studying and I just want to keep the little money I earn for myself.
AITAH?
I suggest you agree a fixed monthly figure that you can afford and she accepts as a sufficient contribution to the household. Will be cheaper than renting your own place unless you find a house share or flat mates.