I (F22) am working in a retail company, and I have been in a good standing with most of my co-workers–definitely too close to some, like this co-worker (M28) of mine.
This co-worker of mine would usually walk with me to the bus stop since we are in the same shift most of the time. We would stop by stores and buy a drink while walking, so we were able to get to know each other more.
The past few weeks, he has been sharing with me his escapades with another co-worker, despite the fact that he just got married a year ago. I do not mind, and do not have any intent to get involved with his personal life, so I just went on listening.
But the past few days, he has been getting too personal with me. He would tell me that my jeans look great and it fits my ass nicely (wtf?). But that’s not the only thing, what blew me off was that, he grabbed me by the waist while we were walking, and he wouldn’t stop even though I was telling him.
I let it slide, but when I got home, I created a dummy account on Instagram and sent a message to his wife. I wrote details of my co-workers escapades with another co-worker, including dates and the time where they would see each other.
I currently have two days off, and would be seeing him by then. I do not know how to face him. I might have just broken a marriage?
So am I the asshole?
I find this hard to respond to cause I’m pretty sure the story is made up after looking at your NSFW themed profile.
Yes, YTA for making up this horrible story and then posting it on Reddit. There is no way that this is a true story.
NTA. You didn’t break the marriage. He did. You just showed his wife the cracks.
NTA. But don’t “let it slide” at work. Tell him to stop to his face and report him to HR or his boss.
Messaging his wife from a fake account is a bit cowardly. His marriage is none of your business but his inappropriate behavior at work should be addressed properly.
Well looking at your profile it seems you look nice in those jeans, butt saying it and grabbing is off limits, especially if he’s married, no, especially since you didn’t not consent. Other than that, making a fake account to let his wife know is what your gut told you to do and you did it so no turning back now. Learn to trust your decisions and deal with the outcome regardless on what that looks like. You felt uncomfortable and communicated that to him when you said stop and he didn’t. You gave him a chance to chill and he didn’t so whatever. He broke up his marriage, you jut made it come to head a lot faster. Now if they make up and he lies and she believes him, you will be the ass hole in thier eyes and hopefully no one else’s. Take time to meditate on the situation, visualize positive outcomes and when you think otherwise remind yourself that you already meditated on this matter and it no longer serves you. Repeat this each time you feel guilty about telling on him and you should feel better. Fuck that guy
NTA also I’d suggest you avoid conversations with this co worker, if he harasses you at work, then report him to your superiors
NTA
But you definitely don’t spend anymore time alone with him.
NTA
Its him that’s breaking the marriage by having an affair.
Report him to HR for his inappropriate behaviour towards you. His comments are unwanted and nobody should be touching you like that without your consent.
You’re NTA but I don’t understand why you didn’t remove his hand from your waist and tell him to stop talking about your body and your clothes. You clearly didn’t like it, so do something about it. Directly.
You told him not to touch you and he continued.
He is also making inappropriate comments.
NTA and if he continues report him to HR.