Family is getting together for Thanksgiving this week but I just don’t have it in me this week. Been stressed and now worried about draining my bank account to pay for auto repair. Every time I get together with family they only ever ask me the same 3 questions and then ignore me. I feel obligated to go but would rather not spend my day frustrated.
Edit: thank you for the responses and helpful words
Definitely NTAH for wanting to protect your own peace. If they message you about it, just say you have other plans!! I’ve always found that with family events like this just not over explaining is the best way to go. I hope you can either find a wonderful friendsgiving or even a peaceful uber eats night ❤️❤️ people put too much pressure on holidays so don’t feel bad about taking your own space
NTA I’m boycotting also. Bought Cornish hens and will bake them instead. Then binge watch some of my favorite shows. And catch up on rest.
NTA, if you need a lie just say you’re sick or something, then spend a peaceful day at home without being ignored!
imagine a cozy day with snacks and shows instead of awkward small talk, blissful
NTA
Just because they are family doesn’t mean they are good for you. Your mental health comes first. I suggest coming down with flu like symptoms and spending the day in bed… Eating you favourite foods and watching tv that you love.
NTA, you don’t have to go, I haven’t been seeing my family at gatherings for many years. I know they are super homophobic and as a closeted bisexual guy, I’d be extremely uncomfortable having to be around family. Really as an adult you can stop talking to your family for any reason.
absolutely NTA. you need to put yourself and your mental health first. idk if this will make you feel better, i’m skipping on thanksgiving this year too. family events stress me also, especially certain family members asking those same damn questions (ik they mean well, but come on!), and i’m going through a lot right now, so don’t really have the mental capacity to deal with all that holiday BS. let them know you won’t be making it this year but will be missing them. you don’t have to tell them why, but if you choose to, you could always say you’re feeling ill (works every time for me). i hope you have a happy thanksgiving OP<3
NTA – sometimes you just gotta choose your mental health.
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Don’t go. You may feel obligated but you aren’t because its an invite not a summons. You have the choice and if it makes you happier to not be there then stay away.
Suddenly develope a cold and bow out the day of ..
You may feel obligated but you are not.
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NTA. I have had years where I bought a few favourite snacks and stayed in alone watching tv. Very good as a re-sent.
NTA I sit gatherings out in favor of my well being often. Sometimes we have to put ourselves first. I hope you feel better soon