My b\*tch of a SIL. Let’s call her Taylor. Taylor (28F) is married to my husband’s brother (28M). My husband and I are both 33. My husband has known Taylor for close to 15 years now, and all this time, everyone in their family knew her to have an attitude problem. She would throw fits when things didn’t go her way, and by fits, I mean screaming, crying, clawing, the works.
You’d think that over time she’d grow out of it but well… she pulled that same attitude DURING MY WEDDING. All throughout the wedding planning period, my husband and I made sure that everyone in our families remained updated with any and all plans we had.
THEN COMES MY DAMN WEDDING DAY. The church people told us beforehand that we MUST start on time because our wedding would affect the mass that was scheduled to happen after our ceremony. Well, well, well. We started 20 minutes late, all because Taylor decided to throw a b\*tch fit.
Why? Because she was being told to sit down while her husband had to walk down the aisle alongside my sister. She didn’t like that she was being told to sit down while her husband was going to walk alongside another woman. The rest of the day went off without much disturbance and we all enjoyed the delicious food and fun activities during the reception. That is… until Taylor decided to have one too many drinks from our mobile bar… and threw up on several spots of the carpeted floor.
A few days after all that bs, husband and I decided to confront his brother about what happened and that we wanted an apology for what Taylor did. BIL got mad at my husband and made fun of him for having "pussy problems". He then told my husband to "let the women handle things because it’s a pussy problem". So, I did. When Taylor messaged me, she was passive-aggressive and asked me what was wrong with my husband, and she mentioned that she didn’t know what was going on, only that my husband had anger issues. While this behavior annoyed me to no end, I still sent her a well-thought-out response that, in my opinion, laid out the issue while still reinforcing that she wasn’t a bad person – just that she made a mistake that I thought she needed to apologize for.
After hearing all of the excuses and heinous things she said about my husband, I told her that my lawyer would be in touch with her since she didn’t want to settle things with us, much less talk to us about what she did.
I sincerely hope, for my husband’s sake, that things get better, especially since now his entire family is involved. But if they continue to be snakes, then maybe it’s better that he’s away from them. He’s already dealt with so much and I don’t want this kind of behavior affecting him more than it already has. Here’s to hoping, I suppose.
Sue her for what exactly? Being an AH isn’t a court matter.
This can’t be real. You can’t sue just because someone is an A. There has to be something actionable.
INFO – what are you suing her for, exactly?
What are you suing for? I’ll wait
You can’t sue her for an apology.
How are you suing her?
NTA if you are suing for cleaning cost of the carpeted floor
This is such a bad post and definitely not true.
I’ll sue you for this.
YTA If you think you should sue because she doesn’t apologize.
OP should have mentioned this in their original comment.
In the Philippines :
Unjust vexation is a legal term, primarily under Philippine law (Article 287 of the Revised Penal Code), for any human conduct that unjustifiably annoys, irritates, torments, or disturbs another person’s mind, without involving violence, compulsion, or physical harm, often seen in neighbor disputes or online harassment, requiring criminal intent (malice) to annoy or harass.
It’s a “catch-all” offense for minor but malicious annoyances where other laws don’t fit, requiring an act, mental disturbance, and lack of justification.
So it sounds like they’d have to prove SIL was doing these things specifically to hurt OP, not just because she’s a difficult person.
INFO: what are you suing her for? What damages are you claiming? Why didn’t you throw her out as soon as she started up?
This story has too much embellishment and purple prose.
‘Yep! Cost of the wedding (since we can’t take those negative moments out of ours and our guests’ brains) and the carpet cleaning cost.’
YTA.
Cleaning costs – absolutely. Inconvenience? Sure. Cost of the wedding? You’re being a chancer. She doesn’t owe you a free wedding. You knew what she was like and still chose to invite her.
Well, Taylor’s obviously an AH, unless she has some kind of terrible neurological condition that forces her to act that way. Her husband is obviously a sexist, so he’s an AH too. Your husband hasn’t really done anything but support his partner (you) in this story, so he’s not an AH. So it comes to you
You were fine for most of the story until you threatened your sister in law with legal action. Unless you’re actually prepared to follow through with that threat, it was a dramatic AH move. Because her actions don’t seem criminal, and you’d be responsible for damages at your event, it seems unlikely that you’re seriously suing her (if so, you might want to get a second opinion from another lawyer about the strength of your case). So you’re an AH too.
ESH (except your husband)
Unless you’re actually suing her. Then… okay.