Hello I’m a 19 year old working at an Italian restaurant. I recently got schedule to work for Valentines day.. I asked my boss 2 week ago for the day off he approved it because we all know we have plans. I made dinner reservations for around 2 on Valentines day (which was only available) I recently asked again for Friday off because that day is an 1 year anniversary of my mother passing. I don’t want to work in that condition and I told him about it he approved it. He post the schedule for the Valentines week and texts me if I can come in lunch swift, I told him it demands on the time. He told me 12-5 I would’ve token the day and the time if my dinner reservation wasn’t at 2. I told him I can’t but I can come in at 5 and work to 8 for the extra help for that day. He told me he’ll talk to me when I come into work about it. So AITA if I don’t get that day off and do a no show and no call? Even though I got approved weeks ahead for the day off?
INFO – when you say you got approval, what does that mean? Is it writing or did he just promise you out loud?
It was in person but he wrote it in the calendar that I asked for it off for others to see
A career-limiting move to put a Hallmark holiday over business need, but you did previously have the day approved. You ask AITA rather than whether you are making a good decision, so NTA.
Do “career-limiting move\[s\]” exist for a 19-year-old working an entry-level service job?
It’s a bit insensitive to call the death anniversary of a mother a ‘Hallmark holiday’?
nta, your young so if you lose your job just get another. you got your time approved.
While I very much agree with the sentiment, in some places 19 year olds are having a lot of trouble finding work. If OP needs the income, might have to compromise the principle
Your boss should have scheduled someone else, it was informed in advance, it ain’t your fault he sucks at managing a team : NTA
NTA but be aware that no call/no show is grounds for termination.
NTA he’s trying to make you work when it’s already been approved verbally and has been written in to the work calendar. You don’t have to attend and you can reconfirm this with him in person, if you really want to help you can but you are not required to. If he tries to say otherwise remind him that it’s already been approved and there’s no possibility of you being able to come in on those days as you’ve made other commitments weeks in advance, apologies but he’ll need to find someone else. Not your problem
If he gave you a confirmation of your time off being approved, that’s all you need to point out. Make sure you document the exchange or have a witness.
In the restaurant industry mothers day and valentine’s day are usually no gos no matter the situation. He may not have realized it was valentines day when he approved it off
That’s his problem, not the OP’s.