Ok so it’s almost 1 am and my roommate has been on the phone on speaker with a group chat of her friends since 3 in the afternoon. They are LOUD and GHETTO and say all types of horrible stuff just for a reaction from each other.
This isn’t anything new but the hours to which she’s on the phone have been longer and longer with today being the longest.
To say I’m tired is an understatement!! She literally screams curse words at the top of her lungs for attention and is a major main character syndrome sufferer. She’s not like this with anybody in college but when she gets on the phone with someone from her home town she puts on this fake ghetto act. Not trying to be mean or anything we’re all black and go to an HBCU but as another black person it’s obviously an act.
She’s has no regard for when I want to talk with my family and friends and almost purposefully calls her friends when I’m on the phone and acts this way. I literally can’t even talk to my dad, who is a stickler for behavior, because she screams and curses and says crazy stuff at the top of her lungs.
I’m not telling her how to live her life and maybe if she wants to act that way or talk to her friends I’m definitely cool with it. But I know she’s purposely doing this when I’m on the phone and just in general has no regard for how I may feel having to deal with her like this for hours on end.
So flash forward to today, she’s been on the phone for HOURS. And when I called my mom she amped up the theatrics. My mom asked me if she was acting or something because her tone/what she was saying sounded like an act or bad script. I literally said as loud as I can without being obvious on the phone with my mom that I have a really bad headache and don’t feel good and want to rest. I said this multiple times very loudly and there 100% no way she didn’t hear me. I even huffed and puffed and put my headphones in and have had them in all day with noise cancellation and can STILL HEAR HER.
I’m literally sobbing my head hurts so bad and I’m one minute away from cursing her out and just letting the anger go free and tell her and all of her little friends to hang up.
I definitely kind of feel like this is a personal attack too because I’m plus size and she’s super skinny and every time she’s on the phone while I’m in the room she makes a fat joke about her friends and talks about how adults (like grandma age) think 150 is way too big for a person. How does that even come up in conversation??? But when she’s talking to them in the bathroom on speaker on her iPad she never says stuff like that.
The only thing holding me back is we leave for break next Monday for all of winter and maybe I should just ride things out to make it less awkward before we leave? Idk what should I do. We come back to live together next semester too and maybe tonight is the night I set boundaries.😢😢😢😢
NTA. You need to take this up with your RA or RD. You need to get moved, or she does. Don’t allow the school to leave you with this person.
If you live in a dorm, go to student housing and request another roommate pronto. I think she is trying to show her friends that she still fits in with them. She is probably otp to them too, but they are entertained. I hope you get out.
NTA.
I’m kinda surprised that female collegians who attend an HBCU are loud. I would never have guessed that.
I don’t want this to get traced back to me in any way, but not only that, we go to one of the top if not the top HBCU in the country. It’s more common than you would expect but not everyone that is like that is to the level of my roommate.
NTA. Record her for evidence! You can choose whether or not you let her know you are doing this and why. Then take it up with the college/university.
NTA, say something, but don’t yell at her. Don’t give her an excuse to escalate things. Also, go to your RA and ask for a different roommate.