…and believe me i know this sounds cliche.
for context, we live in the uk so this is our first (and last) ever prom.
anyway, since we started discussing prom dresses, my friend – let’s call her S – seemed sure she wanted blue.
eventually she found a dress she wanted, in blue, that she was hoping to order which i was aware of.
she was waiting for swatches just to make sure however, so she hadn’t ordered her dress yet.
meanwhile, MY swatches arrived and unexpectedly, one shade really stood out to me – which happened to be blue.
my dad actually works in a dress shop and this blue colour was his top choice too.
so i decided to order my dress in this blue colour and i was SO happy and excited.
the next day i told S and showed her the photos of the colour and she got upset because she felt it was too similar to the dress colour she wanted.
(side note: i remembered the dress she wanted as being a darker shade of blue, while the one i wanted was a lighter, powder blue. i do appreciate i didn’t check with her before buying my dress though, which may have been a fault on my part, but i also didn’t feel like i needed her ‘approval’ over my dress if that makes sense?)
i expressed to her that i just picked the colour that i wanted; that i didn’t want her to be upset over this; that i had kept her in mind by not picking a dark shade, which i was under the impression that was the shade she wanted.
she says she’s not mad at me, but that she is going to be upset for a while.
and i genuinely don’t know what to think? of course i never set out to hurt her feelings and i didn’t know this dress was so important to her?
but my dress is paid for and ordered – meanwhile her swatches haven’t even arrived yet, meaning she can always get a different colour if she wants to.
like before my swatches arrived, i never considered i’d end up picking blue for example.
i’m trying to be empathetic and think about her perspective, but i can’t help feeling that she may be overreacting…like i thought blue was a very common dress colour for prom?
but any advice or opinions would be much appreciated! i don’t want this to hurt our relationship and hearing she’s going to be ‘upset for a while’ is worrying me; AITAH?
NTA of course she doesn’t get to control the color of anyone else’s dress, how absurd.
You’re going to a prom they’re gonna be probably plenty of other people wearing multiple different colors and probably some of them will be blue. Just because your friend doesn’t mean that she’s decides that she should be the one to wear blue with nobody else nobody’s gonna care.
NTA did she think she was going to be the only one in a blue dress? You ordered a different dress in a different shade of blue. It’s fine.
If UK prom is similar to canada. Everyone goes to the same 2 or 3 stores and overlap happens.
NTA. This isn’t a wedding, it’s prom. She can’t dictate color of the dresses. There will very likely be blue dresses there, as well as many other colors. She needs to calm down a little.
NTA
Unless……
\- you two had some kind of agreement to wear different colors
or
\- you picked her exact dress
My advice is to not give in. If she’s one of those drama queen attention-seeking types, then she needs to learn a lesson and it’s better to learn that lesson now than to learn it after being enabled for the next 10 years.
she doesn’t own a color, lmfao. NTA and she needs to get over herself, i never understood ts
What? 2 girls can have dresses the same color. What a stupid thing to be upset about
Gee…wonder if…HORRORS OF HORRORS …another girl at the prom is wearing a blue dress? Will she be a little upset for a while at HER?
There had to be 200 couples at our proms, and between the normal dress colors, had to be 10 or so with similar colors.
My bestie and I both wore black. My friend and her sister both wore white. Who the hell cares what color you’re wearing? Your friend is acting like a baby. NTA
Literally stop reposting this. You’ve gotten a bunch of answers and you’ve even reworked a few of the comments into this new post.
You don’t think your the AH move on.
Good lord. Unless there are only 6 girls in your school, chances are that many girls will be wearing the same color dress. You don’t owe her anything — neither permission nor apology.
NTA
NTA – no one can claim dibs on a color that is universally available to all.