I (17f) have a friend. Her name is Amelie because I can’t be bothered to make up one (16f) we are both in the same year at high school and recently we had a double sleepover at her house. We have had a best friend relationship on and off, and I know this sounds weird, but I genuinely don’t really like her as a person, like if she didn’t hang around in our friend group we probably wouldn’t be friends.
Anyway so on the second night of the sleepover I’m sat on the left side of the bed, she is sat on the right. I am on my iPad playing Roblox because I’m so mature lmao and my phone is on charge over on her side. And she knows the passcode (subtle foreshadowing) anyway so about ten minutes later she shows me her iPad and says “hey I think your phone accidentally airdropped me this” and she showed me a picture of my private messages between me and my friend Grace.
At first I’m confused and immediately check my phone. Because how can you airdrop something without a screenshot? At first I ask
“Wait what were you doing on my phone anyway”
And she replied with
“Sending photos from today to myself”
But when I go into messages there is no photos sent in our chats. And when I go into photos there is no screenshots.
Automatically I don’t really think anything of it and we eventually go to sleep.
When I get home the next day my iPad pings a message, and my phone and iPads messages are connected, so I go into the app and accidentally click on mine and Amelie’s conversation.
Turns out she screenshotted my private texts on my phone and sent them to herself and then deleted them on my phone, but that dumb ahh forgot my iPad. And then I was like wait I gotta be a 100% sure, so I go into my recently deleted photos and find all of the screenshots that she took.
I have never done anything like this to anybody so it was a shock. I immediately text her saying about I know what she did and basically just described it and didn’t say any insults, just played out what happened. She was apologising afterwards and then I ignored the messages.
Later on I apologised to her for being too harsh. I regret this because it makes me seem like a wimp but I just couldn’t be bothered with her anymore. I told her it just won’t be how it used to be and she broke my trust in my apology. But AITAH for the messages I sent telling her what happened?
I am going back to high skl in three days so I’ll update yall after
ESH. You can’t be on/off best friends with someone you don’t even like. She crossed a huge line and I think she’s the bigger AH here, but just stop being friends with people you dislike.
I know and looking back that does sound bad but she has a history of doing this but I have to standards and just automatically forgive so that’s why
That makes 0 sense. If you had standards, why would she be your best friend?
Oh no sorry I meant to say “I have no standards”
NTA.
You now have to make a couple of mature decisions.
Wisely friendship will never be the same anymore.
Will this ‘Friendship’ continue y/n and if yes in what format? (Friendships come in many layers and levels.
Change your password immediately and do NOT share with anyone in that circle.
I would not share with the larger group however if friend Amelie starts picturing as The @ Then share.
Future sleep over? Y/n
NTA. Girl bye.
Lmao 😭
No, you are not an asshole for letting someone know that you are aware that they broke your trust. You did the right thing. Now change your password.
NTA. That was a weird, controlling thing to do, and not cool. And BTW, if you don’t like someone personally, why be best friends? It sounds like you have other friends to choose from.
She just literally wont leave me alone and I don’t have the heart to tell her to piss off lmao
Time to grow one, or she’s gonna keep being like this!
I threw a girl out of a chair for stealing my lunch seat (in my defense i tried asking her nicely to move and she ignored me) so I am not sure if my opinion holds much weight but HS and life in general is a battle ground and if you can’t trust the people who are supposed to be on your side burn that bridge and salt the earth.
But you don’t own a seat… anyone can sit there. What gave you the right to get physical over it?