For background about a month ago I finally booked our first group holiday as we are all 18 this year so I booked for this summer. I originally booked it for myself, my best mate and my cousin before then sending the details ONLY to our group chat from high school but We have been discussing the idea of going on a group holiday for years and since nobody was really being active and since I was the only one who had ever booked anything before I decided to book the holiday for this year because I felt otherwise nobody else would even look. Since then another 3 people have booked on making it six of us confirmed to be flying off in just over a hundred days.
Today one of our group let’s call him H asked if he could invite a guy let’s call him J who we are all familiar with but don’t really have many strong connections to in many cases. H is trying to invite J because otherwise he himself wouldn’t be able to come as he couldn’t afford a singular room ( bare in mind he’s waiting to try book it and prices have since gone up). The 6 of us that are going are in 2 sets of 3 person rooms so this was never an issue for us. Immediately when H asked to invite J I said preferably not as I wanted it to be our group holiday and it wouldn’t feel right having J there despite being friendly with him. I tried my best to explain this to H but he kept on insisting telling me he was getting angry that I was stopping him from coming by telling him not to invite J. Eventually I had the idea to message those that already are booked on for their opinions on the matter as I thought it should be a group choice despite my dislike for the idea of someone not in our group being invited. Then someone that is already booked on for the trip said that they didn’t really like J and wouldn’t be pleased if they were coming. I then told this to H saying that “ someone who is already booked and payed doesn’t like them, it wouldn’t be fair to ruin their holiday by bringing someone they don’t like, I’m not trying to make you mad and I want you to come but you can’t invite J. In response to this H said that I was being “unreasonable” and asked me “why do you always have to control everything” to which I responded that it wasn’t just me and other people who are booked on said no ( I named names of these people). He then responded that others had said the opposite to him but when I asked for names H said “can’t say” LIKE GROW UP WE ARE 18. After I responded with a sceptical “righhht” H proceeded to tell me to “F off” before then continuing to say people were agreeing with him but couldn’t name names. I’ve tried to think about both sides but i thought it was more important to prioritise those of us that were already going than one person who could maybe go by inviting someone that would really ruin the idea of a holiday for one of us that is already booked to come so AITAH?
INFO: is it possible for you to add H to one of the existing rooms so he doesn’t have to book separately?
I have looked into this but this unfortunately isn’t an option due to us booking a package holiday
I get that you want to go with your friend group but you do know the person so it shouldn’t be a big deal, especially if it enables a friend to go. When you get to your destination do you plan to only socialise with your friend group or will you meet new people. YTA.
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Which do you want more, H to be with you or J not to?
Thats the real issue. IdK how close you are but I assume H is feeling left out and rejected since he can’t afford it as easily as you all.
NTA in my opinion if what you’re saying about at least one other person not wanting him to come.