So long story short I’m in my late 20s now , never had any kind of relationship ( I don’t fool around as well) , I used to have a few minor interaction with men but nothing major I could count as something .
I won’t get into too many details but COVID and couple of things that happened at home effected me a little . That’s not the point tho . The point here is what happens when I just STARTING dating so late ?
Also I have some kind of isolation time socially I most of my friends or disconnected from them . But I think it was for the best since I know now what kind of people I actually want in my life .
If you would know that a girl you think is cute and the first second date is going well and you get to know about her dry ass love life would you be unsure about dating her ? Would you behave towards her would change bc of that .
Appriciate answers from men in their middle 20s /early 30s .
Thank you
I swear I’ve read this post before.
As always with this question context is a huge factor. Don’t think most men are gonna care you don’t have alot of experience unless the reason for that is a terrible personality.
Not really , just be careful in the dating world
Take things slow
I think we’d be more concerned with your name being itchy_captain, that’s sounds like you’ve had one to many close encounters tbh 😂
Would not care one bit.
It’s really all about finding the right person to date. And the more average or standard your life-path has been, the easier that’s going to be. They say that opposites attract, but what they don’t say is that opposites react explosively to each other. Find someone who has the same values that you do and everything else will be much easier
If you’re late 20s and not religious I’d assume you’re lying to my face.
Fair enough lol
Not saying you’re lying but most guys have been through the “i’m a nun” sales pitch at some point.
I know you were mainly looking for a guy’s perspective, but I just wanted to leave a little encouragement.
Starting to date later honestly isn’t a bad thing at all. You’re walking in with more clarity, more self awareness, and way less chaos than a lot of people who dated early just for the sake of it. That’s a strength.
And this is just my opinion, but I do think a lot of men appreciate when a woman hasn’t been in a bunch of relationships. Not because they want someone “inexperienced,” but because it usually means you haven’t been dragged through a ton of toxic situations or picked up a lot of emotional baggage from past partners. It signals that you take your time, you don’t settle, and you move with intention. Most guys see that as peaceful, not as a problem.
If a man is into you on the first or second date, he’s not going to suddenly rethink things because your dating history is short. If anything, he’s probably going to see it as a bonus… like, “Oh, she’s really selective and she values genuine connection.” That’s attractive to a lot of men.
And if someone does act weird about it? That’s just someone who doesn’t align with you. The right person will meet you where you’re at, not judge you for how you got there.
> The right person will meet you where you’re at, not judge you for how you got there.
I agree with a lot of what you said, except this.
We humans judge each other all the time, even subconsciously.
To put it into an extreme, if you told me you used to sell your body for money, then we’d be done.
If you told me you used to kill people for money, we’d also be done. Like I said, just extreme examples but there are tons of derivatives.
Nah nothing wrong with this. I think for me I’d rather you know yourself well than know the ins and outs of dating/relationships. Plus let’s be real who truly knows the ins and outs of relationships…
Agree. People here act like failed relationships, trauma, baggage, and so on equals a person who knows themself well. Like what… you can be very well aware of who you are, and what you want, without having to go through all that mud.
It wouldn’t be an issue. Women generally don’t like inexperienced men, men either don’t care or even see it as a green flag.