Just how soon would you expect your partner to both know your birthday and how soon into the dating process would you genuinely expect a gift for your birthday (I’m not asking about anything expensive)
First date? First month of exclusive dating?
A year?
If we’re boyfriend/girlfriend, I expect them to acknowledge my birthday (they don’t have to have it memorized for the first year or two – it’s just one day a year in a sea of all the other days, so it takes time to commit that to memory!). I don’t love my birthday overly much, and I don’t expect some big thoughtful or expensive gift or whatever – we could just go out to eat/he could cook me dinner/take the day off to do something fun together, etc – but at the very least I would expect at least a “Happy birthday!” I don’t get many of those (my parents, sure, but I’m lucky to hear from friends/extended family on my birthday) so it’s very important to me that someone I am dating (especially because I only date with long-term intention) acknowledges the anniversary of the day I came into the world. And I make sure to do the same for them – we celebrate however they want to celebrate, because it’s their birthday!
Personally after any length of time where we are exclusive I expect a “happy birthday” and a hug. But aside from that I’m good.
An adult being hung up on their birthday is at least a big question mark if not an outright red flag.
Why?
I do not like my birthday to be acknowledged. None of my friends know my birthday. It would likely be quite some time before a partner would know – I have never dated anyone to reach that point, so I can’t really pin down a timeframe.
Ditto on this. I have purposely kept my bday from people. I don’t like the attention. One person says happy birthday and 20 more people know my birthday. I don’t want to run this gauntlet for a whole day. Plus there’s those people who will write it on their calendars for the following year!
If she has told you about her birthday she usually wants something and if not I’d let it rest. If you want to know you can ask.
Once you’ve decided to be exclusive, I think it is a reasonable to know what the other person‘s birthday is and remember the day you made that decision. That said, I was surprised that my wife also expected me to remember the day we met and the day I proposed. It is also wise to remember and plan for your wedding anniversary. I personally enjoy celebrating our marriage at any opportunity.
Different people have different feelings about gifts and timing. For me I never expect it. I welcome it when it comes, and feel a little sad but not a huge deal when it doesn’t .
I tend to want to recognize THEIR birthday, but that is more about me celebrating their existence than for their benefit
I’ve been on 3 dates with a man. He already knows my birthday.
Fuck, I forget my own birthday at times 😂
I wouldn’t care about either
If you’ve just started going out but their birthday comes up, I think it would still be nice to do something like dinner out or an activity. But I guess if its been like 1 date you could just tell them happy birthday and that be it.