Guys, how often do you think about someone you used to hook up with? Any advice how you got over them?

It’s been 3 mos since my casual relationship ended (he just never texted anymore and I didn’t reach out either way) and there has been no single day that I don’t think abt him and what he’s up to and I hate myself for feeling like this. I know it sucks bc I am still grieving for the connection and for someone who was never mine.

14 thoughts on “Guys, how often do you think about someone you used to hook up with? Any advice how you got over them?”
  1. You gotta detox from the Oxytocin, takes a while. Time, plus doing other things with your life. Not necessarily romantic 

  2. Don’t just jump into bed with somebody else like all these unevolved people are talking about. It’s a vicious cycle where more and more people are using someone to get over somebody else and there’s just a whole lot of hurt feelings going around and and you sure as hell won’t feel better about yourself. It’ll only be a short term distraction.

  3. idk i think about almost every single person i’ve ever even hooked up with on an almost weekly basis in various contexts so idk dude

  4. Doing something other than hooking up. Hobbies, work, exercise. Something to challenge your mind and/or body.. or you may stay fixated on the past

  5. Why not just reach out if it is making you hate yourself. I legitimately am in the same exact boat… I’m almost to 3 months since she did the same, but I refuse to reinitiate conversation since she wanted silence. Just gotta move on OP.

  6. I often think of a girl I used to hook up with in college. I often suspected she was a lesbian and used me as a beard although I never brought this up with her. Sometimes I think about her and how her life turned out.

  7. For him you could have been another lay, for you he could have been your dream guy.

    Seems like you fall easily, maybe next time wait for commitment before you have sex 🤷🏿‍♂️

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