I love my GF but I feel like I’m not really good at being romantic. She’s written me a handwritten love letter and a poem, has crocheted me a hat, and has baked me brownies and cookies. She’s really thoughtful and sweet. I can’t really cook or bake well, I can’t crochet, and I’m not good with words like she is though. I’m not really sure what “romantic” things I could do for her. She’s 18 and I’m 19.
anything thoughtful, it doesnt have to be in the same style as she does it.
just do lil things she likes, we really dont know her interests so its on you to figure that out by any hints she drops ever.
Surprise her with plans. Something she will enjoy doing.
Lately I have started filling my wife’s gas tank. It’s a little thing and it is considered patronizing by some. She appreciates it. But we are married so it is not an extra expense.
Win win
Developing skills takes time, practice, and patience. Demonstrating that you’re willing to take the time and put in the effort goes a long way, and can be rather romantic.
Learn to cook. Start baking. Get some basic art materials and start sketching. The only way to get good at something new is to stick with it when you’re bad at it.
Get her flowers, silky little gifts, take her out…
replace “romantic” in your mind with “thoughtful” and start being thoughtful. it’ll come across as romance as long as you’re also communicating desire and affection while you do thoughtful things.
My best advice is to LISTEN; this is underrated no matter how much it’s talked about. My partner mentioned needing a wine stopper, I also noticed he only had one janky oven mitt… So I bought him new ones of both. He knows I’m doing some new things at work and have been in the gym a lot more, he has mentioned how well I’m doing. He heard me rave about his home cooking a couple weeks ago, so he has been cooking much more and loves seeing and hearing about how much I enjoy it.
We both listen to each other and do something about it, this shows we both care about each other. He is an extremely romantic person and him showing signs of caring about me and listening to me is so precious. Much better than any other type of romantic move someone would make imo!
This is a common joke among bisexual women who usually date men and start dating women. They are ASTOUNDED when their girlfriend actually remembers things they said and then acts on that in a thoughtful and generous way, even if it’s little stuff like, “hey I know you said pomegranate is your favorite fruit and I saw this pomegranate lip balm on sale so here ya go.”
Listen, remember, act on what you know.
Find out her favorite candy bar. Write one word that describes her on each of the packages and tie them together with a ribbon.
I bought a huge stack of 3 x 5 cards and I write my wife a little note every morning that I leave with the coffee that I make for her. I try to tie them into current events or what is going on in our lives, often with a witty pun. If I can’t think of anything i just sketch something. She loves them. She’s also bragged about it a bunch of times with her girlfriends, and women love things that they can brag about to their friends.
She probably likes having you around and doing things for you, allowing her to do that can be pretty romantic
And there’s the idea of doing things considered romantic and doing the things you find romantic. Planning activities is nice like just hanging out in a park or going for coffee/tea outside if it fits you
I’m 17f and my boyfriend is 18m. I’ve loved when he has gotten me flowers so maybe you could get her some flowers 🙂 he’s also planned a cute picnic date before and brought his guitar and played it for me (if you can’t play the guitar, the picnic idea would still be cute with her fav snacks/food and flowers).
Weird thing: A gf of mine loved Spider Man, and we had a collection of sock monkeys we shared. Super weird inside joke. Don’t even remember how it got started. Anyways, I went on Etsy and paid someone to make a Spider Man sock monkey for her. Can you think of a gift, (doesn’t have to be expensive), that would somehow represent an inside joke between the two of you?
If not, this one is easy: every time you and her go out somewhere memorable, take something, like a picture of the view or a menu from the restaurant. Keep mementos from highlights of your time with her. Put them in a collage, put them in a binder, or throw them in a shoebox. At some point special, share with her everything you’ve kept: “*This was from the time you and I went and saw that terrible movie…”* etc.
Think of things that relate to her or both of your interests and plan something. It doesn’t have to be this grand romantic gesture- truly it’s about being thoughtful and making the plans yourself. Another good tip I got when I was very young was to give her flowers for no reason or occasion at all. Bring her her favorite treat. Send her a random text and tell her you’re thinking about her. Women will tell you their interests – you just gotta listen
Just listen to her and make her feel safe mentally and physically. You can buy flowers and etc but romance like someone else said is just thoughtful gestures. For example. I had a girl who told me she wanted plants a couple months before her birthday. On her birthday I bought her 3 plants and she literally cried and said you actually listen to me.