I (18f) have been friends with this guy (19m) since September. He had a gf for around 4 ish months when we met, but they broke up and i was the first person he told when they broke up…we’ve gotten really close. He’ll come over to my dorm, take a nap in my bed while i scratch his back, and we hang out a lot. We go to bible study together and i genuinely love him so much. Over thanksgiving break, he was with his friends and drinking….he kept sending me things like “wanna kiss” “i wanna see u when u come back” “we have plans as soon as i see you” etc…obviously flirty things. We got back on Sunday, and he asked me to come over, we hung out, watched some tv show and talked and kinda cuddled for around 3 hours. This Friday, i decided i would try to tell him how i feel, so i asked him what he was up too. He said he had plans but if he didn’t he would hang out but then around 10 he asked if he could still come over. I was a little drunk…so was he…but he came over and we laid together for like 15 mins before he kissed me. This was the first time he’s done this and like made a move but we made out, other things happened but we didn’t hook up. After the first time we made out, he asked if we were going to be okay after this to which i responded with a yes. Then he continued to just hold me and kiss my cheek etc for around 2 hours. Im taking that 1 of 2 ways…either 1: he didn’t want to kiss and wants things to be normal again or 2: he doesn’t want me to just ghost him or be weird afterwards. I don’t really know how to approach the situation now…he’s still snapping me back and responding, but he hasn’t brought up that night at all whatsoever. How do i tell my best friend of almost 5 months that I’m in love with him?
if you won’t tell him no one is going to do it for you. do you realize this? but what if this is your chance?
Yeah i know im just so scared about being rejected if he doesn’t like me…
well he’s already made out with you and clearly likes you.
statistically you aren’t likely to be with him forever but you certainly won’t be with him if you don’t speak up, so you better shoot your shot. you having literally nothing to lose.
keep in mind that love at your age is more like infatuation and a ton of raging hormones convincing you to reproduce urgently. not that that’s gonna change your feelings about him but maybe it can tone things down from “hank (or whatever his name is) you’re my soulmate and i love you” to “hank, are we dating? because atp i dont think i can just be friends with you”. which is exactly what you should ask him. hell just text him that.
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