I (25F) work at a coffee shop and have been hooking up with the delivery truck driver (30M) for the past couple weeks. Whenever we meet up, he’ll be in between deliveries overnight so we usually only have about 30 mins – an hour to hook up. The first couple times we had sex, I was bleeding because we don’t have much time to do foreplay and try to get to penetration too quickly. It was never painful though and not much blood got on him so it wasn’t bad to wash off.
But we hooked up again this past Friday and it did not go well. He usually tells me how much time we’ll have to hook up before we meet but this day he had waited until we were already making out in the car that he only had 30 mins to hook up. This made me anxious since we didn’t have that much time and I couldn’t relax. We basically spent a majority of the time trying to get him inside me and it wasn’t working. We just ended up doing some foreplay before he had to leave to go back to work. When he was going to leave, we realized that his hands were bloody from when he was fingering me and I was so embarrassed. He played it cool, said it’s not a big deal, and that we could always just wash it off. After we parted ways, I texted him apologizing that our meetup went poorly and he didn’t respond.
The next time I saw him was on Sunday at work while he was dropping off our delivery. I asked him if we were good and he said he wanted to take a break because the blood was too much for him. I ended up calling him after my shift so we could talk more about it. He said that the blood on Friday was really bad and that even though he was playing it cool he was actually freaking out. He even said that when he went to go wash off in the restroom he was trying not to pass out. He said he wants to take a break for a bit and think about what he wants to do. I asked him if he actually wants a break or if he wants to stop seeing each other completely but he assured me he didn’t want to break up. I am a little skeptical though that he is just saying that because he has to see me at work still and doesn’t want to hurt my feelings. I kept emphasizing with him that if he ever wanted to stop seeing me, if he could promise to just tell me because I don’t want to be confused. He agreed and said he wouldn’t ever lead me on. He also said that if things ever don’t work out, that he will keep it professional at work and I agreed to do the same.
Now I don’t know how to move forward. Should I wait for him to initiate things with me? Should I wait a couple weeks, test the waters and ask him to hook up again? Is it a red flag that the blood was a turn off for him? I still am very sexually attracted to him and want to keep hooking up. But i’m confused about the whole break situation and don’t know where to go from here 🙁 Any advice would be appreciated!
TL;DR – I bled during sex with my
hook up. He said he wants to take a break but I’m not sure if he’s being honest or trying to be nice since he has to see me at work still. Pls help!
some men pass out when they see blood
A lot of men are squeamish. Nurses have been surprised I watch them work because, and I quote, “Most men would faint.”
Don’t take it personally. He just can’t handle things like this. He’d probably vomit if you vomited, or if a baby shit on him. It’s kinda weak and weird.
Sorry if it hurt your feelings.
We’re you menstruating? Doesn’t matter the duration, you shouldn’t be bleeding like that every time you have sex. Might be worth taking this question to your doctor.
Wait for him to re-initiate. I’d say he feels unsafe
Ladies, STOP GIVING YOURSELF AWAY FOR FREE. It just leads to more damage that an actual GOOD guy will have to go through later on. Your allowing yourself to be used but expecting mutual respect. Men don’t operate like that. No shade to op. I wish you the best. Just a grown man perspective. Downvote at will
I can’t speak for him, every man is different, but for me personally, if a woman was bleeding every time we had sex or foreplay that would probably be a deal breaker for me.
Like I can and have done it when she’s on her period. But it’s definitely not arousing especially if it was the norm.
On a separate note, I’m not a doctor or expert on woman physiology, but bleeding as often as you have described sounds like a medical issue and often indicates underlying issues such as cervicitis, STI’s, cervical polyps, or ectropion.
I’m not sure what you want from us. He seemed like he was pretty articulate.
The only trouble is, the question you’re asking, he doesn’t know the answer either.
I know women spend a lot of time with their own blood, but for guys? Having someone else’s blood on you is ***pretty rare***.
So, seeing blood all over himself hit him pretty hard, turned him off.
And really, outside of periods, I’ve never heard of someone bleeding that often during sex. That does not sound like a very good situation.
So, he’s going to think about it. He’s freaked out. He does not want to end it right now, but he’s not sure if maybe he should.
That’s his answer. Unfortunately, it’s an unknown.
Is there no way you could find enough time for adequate foreplay so you can have decent sex?
I’m sorry this happened to you, but this is an intimate situation that you and a serious partner or someone that cares about you should be dealing with together.
He’s a truck delivery driver that comes at midnight and bangs you. He owes you nothing, as nice as he’s been about this so far. I’m a man, and the same applies for women I casually see. It’s unhealthy, almost always.
I’d speak with a doctor. Could be birth control related. One of my exes had a similar issue so we’d use lube or coconut oil. Don’t bang delivery drivers on the job.
Not worth pursuing this man.
I’m in agreement with others that blood 3 out of 3 times when it’s not period blood is too often.
My wife on rare occasion (maybe 1 in 30) will get a little tear, almost always painless, and she’ll notice a couple drops of blood on the toilet paper when she’s wiping up. That’s both less frequent and less amount than you are describing. She’ll tell me, we’ll make some comment about how we maybe got a little too enthusiastic, and move on.
If she is ever not wet enough, we’ll slow down, use more foreplay or a few drops of lube that I always have handy. Yes, sometimes lube is needed for PIV.
I’m no doctor, but I think you’re rushing to penetration with a selfish lover. Quite frankly, I find it astonishing that you don’t see him that way.
ETA: I just remembered, sharp fingernails can sometimes cause this. I’ve learned to make sure I remove any sharp corners or jagged edges on my nails to avoid this.
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