Been talking to this girl, and everything seemed serious, we been flirting a lot, giving each other hints that we want a serious relationship and such. However, she hasn’t texted me since yesterday. I tried reaching out today again, and she didn’t reply, which is weird. She’s out of town rn, but she usually sends me a gm text when she wakes up and texts me during the day, but today she’s been completely quiet. Seems like she hasn’t been active on any social media today though, so idk.
Maybe it’s my trauma of always being the excluded kid nobody wants to talk to, but I do feel like she ghosted me. Maybe I did something she didn’t like? Maybe she’s playing with my feelings?
But this sucks, 2 girls already played with me this year, and now a third one? I feel completely devastated rn, like something inside of me finally died. I feel like isolating myself behind a metaphorical wall, where nobody can hurt me. 22 years and I’ve never been loved, I just wanted to experience real love for once, but it seems like I’m destined to being alone for the rest of my life, and I think it’s time to accept my reality. Idc if the right one ends up showing up, I’m not gonna run the risk of getting hurt again.
I think I’ll be happier living behind my wall, isolated from everyone, after all, I’m used to being alone, I’ve been alone almost all my life. So instead of fighting it, I’m gonna embrace my reality and try to make the best of it.
You’re looking for a woman to address something inside of you that you need to deal with yourself. It’s never going to work until you do the internal work.
Dude, leaving somebody unresponded for a day is not a massive deal. You don’t know what is going on with her, maybe she lost her phone ffs.
You really need a thicker skin than the conclusion of your post suggests you have, especially with some that you have just been “talking to”.
“real love” is found from your mom and dad. any family that has grown with you, cared for you, and supports you, if you’re lucky to have that. a close friend you’ve grown up with, hell even a pet. it’s better to not pull your hair out looking for that from women who are just barely beginning to figure out themselves. I am a 22M as well, and honestly the way to do it for us is to meet a lot of different people, have fun, and wait on it. The dating game is so drastically different today compared to a couple decades ago. The chance of finding your true life partner in your 20s is not good. Also bro hop off social media. You’re getting obsessive over someone you’re not even in a relationship with technically. I was there before, and it isn’t healthy at all.
I’m retiring from the dating scene tbh, not worth my time anymore
I agree, who cares if she doesn’t text for a day. You gotta have more going on in your life than waiting for responses from her. You sound desperate. Desperation scares girls away
Relax. Sounds like you might need medication.
Time to hit the gym and let your testosterone surge. Give it 3 months and your confidence will change for the better. ++Man
She could be in an area with no service, broke her phone, lost the charger, lost the phone. Maybe SHE had an accident or got ill. It’s one day, she’s out of town. Wait till she returns, or you hear from her next, don’t bombard her with angsty abandonment texts, that will make her think maybe she better reevaluate this relationship.
Tell her to enjoy her trip, you’re sure she’s busy and you won’t bomb her with a bunch of texts till you hear from her again. Tell her you’re looking forwards to seeing her when she gets home again. Leave it at that till you hear from her again.
Sorry this is happening to you dude. It makes me sad to read.
But these types of interactions shouldn’t leave you “devastated”. You should probably accept them as inevitability, or at least likely to happen. Remember, a lot of people (men AND women) are talking to multiple people at once. You often won’t be the first choice. I understand it all too well – it often happens to me. The difference is, I don’t take it personally, and I utilize the interaction as an experience // life lesson. You should do the same.
You are also 22 years old. Even if you found a girlfriend now, chances are it wouldn’t last. Be thankful you’re not miserable with the wrong person.
I take it as devastating because I’m tired of the same thing happening over and over again. When will I be the first option? These situations make me feel like I’m worthless. 22 years and I’ve never been somebody’s first option, like shit, I have no friends to begin with. I’m taking all these situations as a reminder that I’ll never be good enough, that no matter how hard I try, I’m never gonna be enough.
And like I said, that’s okay, I think isolating myself is the best thing I can do.
Well, you need to work on some things within yourself. Don’t let your eagerness to get into a relationship kill off any chance of getting one going. Sending an emoji I’d sweet but not something tremendously meaningful worth making a mountain out of. Also, demanding attention can be incredibly suffocating which isn’t going to be seen as an attractive trait.
Check your enthusiasm. Make sure it isn’t getting the better of you. Don’t turn small matters into catastrophic problems. You weren’t going to emoji every morning forever right? Things grow and evolve.
Ignore her until she contacts you. Make her miss you!
You need to chill man. It sucks getting ghosted, it sucks being left hanging. it sucks when your mind starts racing. but right now you just don’t know. And if you come at her raw and starting acting weird in the next interaction you’re just going to torpedo whatever you have going on.
Have a little more patience, and it might help you to stop making yourself out to be a victim. Remember, the world doesn’t owe you anything. Do the work to be someone people want to spend time with and you will find those people.