I genuinely don’t understand why so many people get pressed about age-gap relationships. Like… if I’m happy, why is it suddenly everyone’s business?
Truth is, I don’t mind having an older boyfriend. I love that my M34 partner is the first man I’ve ever trusted on this level emotionally, romantically, and in the way he leads with maturity. I feel safe with him, I learn from him, and I love the dynamic we have. I don’t mind spending my early twenties with him, because being with him feels right to me.
my first intimiate relationship. first guy that i let go raw and finish in me. i don’t mind having him take lead and i can follow. i don’t mind if he gets me pregnant lol.
Honestly, the older he gets, the more attractive he becomes. I can’t even explain it it’s just incredibly sexy watching a man grow into himself & get older.
So yeah, I’m head over heels for that man.
So why are some of y’all so concerned about a relationship that isn’t yours???
You’re both adults so don’t care
We dgaf.
You’re 22, you know as much as I knew at 22. Ask again at 32 and see how you feel.
Any guy who can get or can’t or can’t put up with a woman his age is the one I would have questions about. Not the starry eyed 22yo
I’d say most of “us” don’t care.
What advice is being sought?
You’re both adults so you close the door on the people trying to 3rd party your relationship.
I’m pretty sure you’re the one who’s actually bothered by it bcz if I’m not tripping it’s like the 10th time i see your post about it .
You’re not tripping, she posts literally every day, aha, might as well be an Ai bot.
I feel like it’s some sort of fetish content. The random details about how he was her first, the first man to go raw and finish inside lol and how she doesn’t mind if he gets her pregnant.
Maybe fetish isn’t the right word but this does sound like it’s written as a fantasy or with the purpose of some sort of sexual gratification. I’ve never seen anyone talk about an age gap and randomly add cream pie details mid way through.
It’s usually not age gap that concerns people, but gap in experience. You’re young adult, but he’s been living his adult life for more than 10 years.
This difference sometimes causes problems in relationship (different interests and goals in life, he’s more likely ready to settle down while you could use your 20s to explore the world and discover what your passions are).
I’m not saying that 12 years age gap is too big and the relationship is not working out because of that (it always depends on people involved), but the age gap might arise some obstacles that you need to navigate through carefully.
But I suspect that people around you are mainly concerned about you being taken advantage of by more experienced male partner. This is a genuine concern and don’t be too harsh with them because of it. They want the best for you and don’t want to see you get hurt. Perhaps suspecting that your partner’s interests are mainly sexual and short term, while you’re genuinely in love.
All considered – people try to watch over you and be appreciative about it, but you’re grown-up now and make your own choices in life, obviously.
I personally have seen several friends and acquaintances with 10+ year age gaps. Those relationships sometimes went on for a good while, none survived long term.
I’m a dad. If my 22 year old daughter brought home a 34 year old I would probably be seriously concerned.
While I do believe it’s not technically anyone’s business, I think with that much gap it’s very likely you are, or will be, in different “places” with regards to major life components. That’s the real problem. For example, maybe when you are 27 you will want kids. But he’s 39, and he decides he is past that point.
And not to appear insensitive, but people are often a bit blinded by “their first” and don’t necessarily think the straightest.
From another “dad” point of view. Why is this 34 year old going after 22 year olds? That’s a red flag to me.
I mean, for starters 4 months ago you were venting about feeling unlovable and stuff like that. I therefore have to imagine you two have been dating less time than that. Along those lines, how has your mental health been? People with lower self worth are often more easy to manipulate. When you add that to the fact that he likely has his life figured out including financially and you likely are still in that process, it is reasonable to believe he is manipulating you through in ways that may still be negative.
22 to 34 is not necessarily an age gap that is always a problem. You’re fine to date the man and all that. But, if people in your life are showing concern its because they are worried you are being manipulated. That will fade as the relation matures and you two have been together longer assuming you two continue to have a good and healthy relationship. Best of luck, but be smart and cautious.
I feel like any healthy normal 34 yr old does NOT want to be in a relationship with a 22 yr old girl. I know i dont.
I’m not concerned about the age gap but it does feel weird the way you describe it.
You sound immature and very infatuated, maybe that’s why people are concerned.
The random details make it seem like a kink post. How he was the first man, the first you let finish inside you and go raw, the man you wouldn’t mind getting you pregnant. That 100% sounds like somebody wrote that to wank to it.
What advice are you looking for?
Normal, secure people do not post about their relationship this much on Reddit. Normal, secure people do not seek validation from Reddit.
Being in a relationship with an uneven dynamic in a healthy way would not cause someone to post about it this much on Reddit.
Your behavior is concerning at best.