My ex was convinced my guy friends had a thing for me and it was the main cause of all our arguments. I’m wondering if that’s actually a guy thing or just insecurity.
My ex was convinced my guy friends had a thing for me and it was the main cause of all our arguments. I’m wondering if that’s actually a guy thing or just insecurity.
Do you look remotely close to Gorlock the Destroyer? if not then yes, they want to smash.
I’m attracted to attractive woman. Friends has nothing to do with attraction.
The thing is people are just more likely to be friends with attractive people and especially women. The word “attracted” doesn’t even imply romance necessarily
I agree mostly. To OPs question, not all men are attracted to their female friends that’s just a fact. What I would say, though, is that when you spend time around someone, attraction does change. Maybe someone you found attractive initially displays some shit behavior that kills any attraction, or as you get to know someone who wasn’t initially atractive to you, little attractive details sort of grow on you.
i would say yes but if they would act upon it is a different story.
for example, it doesn’t matter how hot a woman is, if she is my friend’s gf then fuck off.
Personally speaking, I’ve had female friends I was attracted to and ones that I wasn’t attracted to. So it varies.
Agreed. 6-8 months is generally when the floodgates open for me. Then the standards reset to nominal. But as someone else stated, being attracted and liking female friends is different. I’d spend 12 hours with most women, but there are only a few that i would spend 12 years with.
Maybe?
A lot of men have zero standards and will fuck anything. I don’t know if those constitute the majority.
Now, if you’re above average attractiveness, not obese, and so on, then yes, the average guy will want to fuck you. It’s definitely not universal.
The only female friends I’m not attracted to are the unattractive ones. Take that as you will.
When guys say “every guy friend you have wants to smash you” what some people tend to hear is “every guy friend you have is patiently waiting in the wings, rubbing his hands together for the opportunity to smash the second it’s possible and doesn’t view you as a person, but as a set of holes”. This interpretation is false. Not to say those “friends” don’t exist, or that there aren’t dudes who only value you because they think they will eventually smash, but those aren’t what the statement is referring to.
What is true, is that if you were to express an interest in having even your true friends have sex with you, they would likely say yes. Yes, that one dude you’re thinking of that you’re sure wouldn’t? He would. There are exceptions, but as a general rule, it holds up. This obviously excludes some of the decent dudes who are in relationships, gay dudes, etc. But those dudes in relationships? If they were single, yes, they too would fuck you.
The unfortunate truth of male-female friendships is that the Venn-diagram showing ‘Qualities I want in a friend’ and ‘Qualities I want in a Partner’ is almost a perfect circle. The gap is sexual attraction, but people tend to hang out with people they find attractive, and men are significantly less discerning in what they find attractive. 95% of straight men would fuck the upper 50% of women.
This. There’s a huge difference between “I am trying to smash”, “I am hoping to smash”, and “if she came onto me I’d smash.”
One of the best explanations of this I have read.
Very well put. I have a friend who is a woman. She is attractive, but there is zero chance I would leave my wife for anyone, even that one guy’s dead wife. However, if I were single, and if she were interested and single, I’d totally try to find out if we were a good match.
I hate how we always frame this argument as one way.
I have had what I thought were women who were just friends, but after I broke up with one of my girlfriends suddenly one of these friends started to hit on me and it ended up ending our friendship when I didn’t reciprocate.
It was at that point is when I realized basically what you’re saying, but it’s also true and goes both ways for both sexes.