first of all, 2 weeks ago i told a girl i’m into her (i dont really like her that much, but i just wanted to maybe get into a relationship and all that) and she told me she liked me too, but she is scared to be into a relationship and blah blahm i felt a bit confused but i kinda agreed with her so we left it as a "friends with benefits / i like you-i like you too kind of a relation-ship". all good and all but recently, well for the past 5 days this happened:
1) she stopped responding (ignoring) my instagram reels / tiktoks suddenly. now i have a program that allows me to see on instagram if someone leaves me on seen, even if they have "read receipts" turned off. im not a spammy guy so i dont send many mssgs. i was texting her and she then asked me a question, i responded then she didn’t see my messages from there. this got me very confused as she didn’t do this before, but no problem, as i wanted to get a clear answer i sent her a sarcastic-funny mssg on whatsapp asking her if i should get an appointment for her to answer to me and she replied with "srry i was very busy at work". now i know this was a bullcrap answer and a fat lie, but i went with it and said ok.
2) since 2 days ago i sometimes see reposts on tiktok from her (recent repost so the "busy at work" is clearly a lie) and one of the reposts was "me expecting a big flower bouquet for valentines day, but im single" which got me even more confused and annoyed as: ignoring me + claiming she’s single, even though 1 week ago we kinda agreed to be in a relationship sort of way.
now i’m not into these "girl moods and phases" where she’s testing to see if i need her or not, and i dont want to waste my time with an undecisive girl, so i’ve been thinking of sending her a mssg on whatsapp to meet and have a talk. do i ignore her until she answers or do i mssg her and clarify the situation, because this got me very confused and annoyed that she clearly lied instead of giving me a straight answer
She wants to be in a relationship, just not with you.
Let it go. You weren’t entering into the relationship with good intentions, so it’s best that this just fizzles out before it goes anywhere. For the future, don’t pursue anything with someone just to have a girlfriend when you know that you’re not all that into them.