This is about coming out of a deep behavior which is watching porn.
How did you come out of it?
Before getting into porn I was able to look women in their eyes and talk and even now(after porn habit). But after getting home sometimes I fantasize the women who flirted with me. I don’t want my mind to be corrupted.
I want to go back to my good state where I never watched porn.
This is a behavior addiction.
I’m not referring to masturbation addiction. I’m able to do long nofap streaks. Even with porn I did 5 months and I thought I’m out of it. But recently I went back to porn when I was in Las Vegas when I was looking at things(posters, ads which induced me to watch porn).
I need help to come out of it completely.
I have never heard of somebody watching so much porn that it makes them socially disabled and I have done over a decade in the military. I’ve heard my fellow men engaging in all sorts of bs, but this is wholly unique. It would be my guess that you have a truly complex mix of brain problems that will require a therapist and about 5 years to unpick. Up to you when you start.
Its easy you don’t feel guilty about a normal behavior.
Turned off my internet and I imagine women have penises. Eventually, I got out of it.
I watched loads of porn but never really objectified women in reality. It’s two different worlds, fantasy and reality. Porn ís like a superhero movie like Spider-Man.
That is all.
By now I find porn rather boring really.
Superhero movies as well in fact. But I did use to enjoy both.
Your mind isn’t corrupted if you fantasize about someone, that’s biology. Your actions are what matter. In any case, this sounds like a question for a therapist.
I found my faith and that helped me.
I think it’s the same for any addiction… cold turkey or gradual reduction … it’s what suits you… hard though it is…remove the temptation… I think the thinking is not to stop masturbating -but swap the subject for your partner… CBT…
I don’t think porn has anything to do with your issues here
I would say you are really confused about the distinction between problems with addiction and natural human function.
Is food an addiction? You need it every day, and when you don’t have food, you get obsessed about it.
Is water an addiction? You need it every day, and if you don’t drink you start to feel physical withdrawals.
From a genetic perspective, sex is just as important as food and water for the survival of the species, and the instinctual pull of it is just as powerful.
The key is to accept that having a sex drive is a normal healthy part of being a human.
It’s not that you saw porn and got attracted to sexual attraction, as though, if you’d never seen porn, you’d never have had these feelings.
What you are experiencing is the obsession that comes from artificially denying yourself of sexual outlets, and causing an unhealthy fixation.
Like how fasting makes people ridiculously horny, your inhibitions about sex are making you unhealthily obsessed with it.
Chill out. Jack off how ever much you need to so that you’re not constantly preoccupied with sex.
It’s always been interesting to me how women seem to fantasize about what they would want to come true, and make the serious cognitive errors in thinking men do the same. Men’s fantasies have nothing to do with reality and would be the last thing we want to actually happen in real life.
When I was addicted to World of Warcraft, I was thinking about it 24/7. I’d be in class supposedly doing an assignment but instead I was planning levelling my alt’s professions and the materials I’d need for it. It took me two weeks off of WoW-crack for my mind to return to a normal state.
I don’t know if you need more than two weeks, but if you want to break free from a porn addiction, just cut it off all at once, and go outside, and interact with people in the real world. Maybe give yourself a month, and your mind should begin to return to normal.
I’m totally not addicted to porn, but on REDDIT asking questions about porn.
it’s much more likely that men who can’t look a woman in the eye will end up using a lot of porn.
the porn use is an effect, not a cause.
I think someone is messing with your head. Porn isn’t evil and probably won’t cause you any real issues unless you are convinced it will. Stop taking life advice from your pastor or deacon they will just guilt you up.