My girlfriend read my journal and I am feeling insane for being upset.
She thought I was cheating on her because I wore cologne and wore a ring on my pinky finger. I don’t normally do these things, but I did that day just because when I was getting ready they caught my eye. She took this as reason enough to go through my texts and saw I got a promotional text from Tinder and was texting someone who is in my phone as “Sugar Bear 🐻.“ Sugar Bear is a guy I used to work with who I saw Deadpool 3 with and thought it was funny when Wade called Peter Sugar Bear so I started calling my friend that.
She then went through my journal, taking pictures of entries. I have told her before that if she did that I would take it as an extreme violation of trust. She knew I would. When she confronted me with the entries she started with “I know you’re just going to say it was private,” but that just makes it worse to me. She knew it would upset me and knew how I would view it, but she did it anyways.
When I tried talking to my dad about it, he acts as if I should’ve expected it because I didn’t keep it locked away.
For the record, I am not cheating.
No point in talking to her. She won’t care. Dump her.
Dump her. You are entitled to private thoughts. If she’s got so little integrity that she would invade your journal she doesn’t deserve the time of day from you
Integrity yes that is exactly the word I was looking for. She has absolutely no integrity.
she doesn’t trust you, and violated your privacy, disregarding your consent.
don’t date people who don’t trust you, or who you don’t trust.
trust is a necessary foundation for a healthy relationship.
she’s being abusive, and she doesn’t trust you. don’t date people who don’t trust you or who you don’t trust, that shit’s toxic.
break up.
I thought reading someone’s journey was bad enough… But she went next level with it by taking pictures of your enteries?
If your GF first instinct is to snoop instead of talk to you face to face… Those type of people are never worth your time.
Obviously you didn’t cheat, but that is how ugly/low she thinks of you. She considers you a cheater and doesn’t trust you.
That thought is worse than having privacy invaded. I wouldn’t waste time on someone who doesn’t trust you.
Its ironic, because your record is clean. And there is actually only 1 untrustworthy person here, its her. She cannot be trusted to act proper in this relationship towards you. Going behind your back, knew it would bother you, still did it anyway.
Its wild to take pictures of your entries.
You’re not going to get through to her to communicate it wasn’t okay. She already knew it wasn’t okay, she justified her own actions.
People like this will ruin your peace of mind. Everything you do, is suspicious to them. A never ending stream of having to prove your innocence.
Apparently a pinky ring and not wanting to smell like BO is an indicator of cheating these days.
She doesn’t trust you and now you can’t trust her. Without trust the relationship is over. The only question is when do you realize it’s over and end it.
I would have dumped her right then and there. That’s a boundary that I’m not willing to put up with someone breaking. She knew it was private she knew how you felt about her reading it and she did it anyway. I could not live with her I really couldn’t. I’d kick her out of my life in a heartbeat.
She showed you who she is. She doesn’t care about boundaries, or respect. She isn’t the one dude and trust is broken hard. Dump her, and dad’s right, lock that shit away.
That is NOT OKAY don’t try to make it OK
You communicate it was not OK by dumping her ass.
Dump her. That’s a massive breach of privacy
If you don’t break up with her she’s going to interpret her behavior as acceptable and most likely will continue to push things even further to see what she can get away with.
I would rather have someone cheat on me than read my journal. That’s insane and something you can never come back from. You’ll never have a safe space in that relationship again. It’s over