Hello, I am a foreign student in the Czech Republic (21M) and I like a Hungarian girl from my dorm (20F). I often see her in the library. She is usually studying or using her phone and is alone most of the time.
I am not very experienced in flirting and I am unsure how to approach her in a respectful and natural way. I thought about leaving a small note, but I am not sure if that would be a good idea.
I once replied to something she wrote in the dorm WhatsApp group and we talked a little in private, but she hasn’t replied to my last message for a few days. Maybe she’s busy or maybe she’s not interested, I don’t know. We’ve never met face to face, but I would still like to try my chances.
I’m also afraid of messing everything up when I try to talk to her. I’m not afraid of starting a conversation, but I’m worried I won’t be able to keep it going. In that moment, nothing comes to my mind and I get nervous. But every time I see her, I almost melt. I’ve even thought about leaving a small note in her textbook.
I would like to ask for advice from people who have been in a similar situation. What would be a good and respectful way to start a conversation with someone in a quiet place like a library?
Thank you.
Just go meet her face to face, introduce and ask her if she wants coffee, and suggest a cafe. The chances are she knows what you look like. Really simple, no pressure and take it from there. If she says no, then you have your answer.
If you have any common interests, that would be a good place to start. (And if you’re not sure what her interests are, you can get some mileage out of finding out.) You can also try asking her to a movie or some other event, which would automatically give you something to talk about.
That said, I don’t know if approaching her while she’s studying would be the best idea – if she’s focusing on studying, then she probably doesn’t want to be interrupted. Maybe try striking up another conversation over WhatsApp?