I went to a dinner at my friend’s, and her boyfriend was drunk when I got there. The space was small and when he was trying to get pass where i was sitting at he 100% touched my ass and said if the place wasn’t so small he wouldn’t need to touch my ass every time he needs to go to other side. So that was very uncomfortable already, then I was eating with the knife and fork then he held my two hands from behind and was making some jokes about me eating with knife and fork, and I just froze and didn’t know what to do. Later my friend’s son arrived, and he for some reason said we never met before, then later asked her mom ( my friend) if I’m staying for the night. And this whole time I feel like both her boyfriend and son were staring at me a lot in a creepy way. Later my friend was giving me some leftover and she kept trying to get her son to walk me out or carry stuff for me when there’s just two container of food in plastic bag. The whole experience just gross me out and I could be totally just full of myself by thinking they were being creepy and idk how to tell my friend about it or just not saying anything.
He’s a creep wtf
You didn’t say anything to your friend?
Your friend didn’t say anything either?
I would have left. Fuck those people.
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Her not saying anything is exactly why I didn’t bring it up to her and is also why I’m confused, like I’m questioning my reality if that’s normal and I’m overreacting or what
Why would you be overreacting? That’s 100% a bad situation to be. There is an entire family, and then you.
I would have left immediately after that guy touched you inappropriately, the second time. I think you have to stop looking for cues from your environment and social surroundings to know if what you are feeling is actually valid.
I know women rely on their feelings a lot more, and at times maybe you feelings have led you awry before. But you are out numbered, and that is even more reason that you should think independent of the social surroundings.
Be careful, it’s the group that can set you up to do something you don’t want to.
Yeah, that’s some creepy shit right there.
If you have the chance just to not meet up again, you dont have to say anything either.. until they ask I guess. Thing is, if you feel a bad vibe, you are not imagining it. Its good to reflect but its pretty obvious here they were being creepy.. Like your friend has a double agenda or something.
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I feel like she must know how he is, I don’t believe it’s the first time it ever happened and on top of that her son was creepy too, and she was being his wingman (?) by keep making him walk me to my car
As opposed to your three hands?
Your friend is aware that her boyfriend is attracted to you, they are both being creepy.
She’s a lot older than me and is very nice person is probably the other reason why I have such conflict feeling, she’s nice but for some reason with this creep?
Trust your gut instincts. Don’t second guess yourself. You’re getting red flags for a reason. It’s never a good idea to go against your heart.
Thank god I left! The boyfriend kept making joke about how I can’t leave and the more he says it the more I want to leave
I personally would not bother saying anything to her and just quietly build distance between us.
As a female you already know as well as I do that any suggestion of her boyfriend being creepy towards is almost certainly going to result in her becoming insecure and defensive and twisting things around on you so that it becomes a narrative about *you* trying to get her man.
On one hand:
Paragraphs. Use them. It makes things massively easier to read.
On the other hand:
Yeah, that gives me a weird vibe, too. Friends BF was 100% pushing boundaries on purpose. (Not sure why, but none of the reasons are good for you) Son was also likely into you.
It’s *possible* that your friend missed the cues/vibe and was trying to get you to spend time with her son (or alone time with BF) for some reason. People sometimes miss the most obvious things.
I’d recommend talking to her about it and avoiding being alone with either her son or BF in the future.