I’m curious cause this guy remembers conversation from couple of months ago or even where we left off at. Always asks me questions that are you into this particular stuff as well f based on previous conversations that we had a month back? He seems to be curious about me often and tends to carry the conversation often and I keep the conversation going and ask about him as well. He has come on strong in the past I had to back treat as well caused it scared me and was genuinely caught up stress of uni, placements and work, and didn’t have the time for a relationship last year. But I’d like him but anyways he confuses me and have put my guards up. Anyways, his behaviour confuses me.
It sounds like he is interested in you and therefore attentive. You on the other hand don’t share the same level of interest so you treat the conversations as mundane and forgettable.
Sounds like he is into you, and you have some personal issues you need to work out
Personal issues? I’m done with uni so I’m more open to a relationship now than I was last year due uni. Anyways, constantly working on self. But he confuses me.
Why he confuses you?
He goes hot and cold, and that unsettles me.
Last time he came on strong and it was obvious he liked me. But when I texted him about a health flare-up, something vulnerable, he left me on read and only replied three days later with an apology and advice.
That really triggered my trust wound. It made me feel like if he cared, he wouldn’t have taken that long especially when I was in pain.
Since then, my guards have gone up.
What confuses me is that he still acts curious about me and my life, even after that. I’ve noticed in the past he tend to withdraw and respond late when he’s overwhelmed, but that specific delay shifted something in me.
I haven’t told him it hurt me. Fearing it would not go well or I might walk on egg shells post conversation.
When a guys hot and cold with a woman, doesn’t it mean he’s not that into her?
I was referring to the fact that you stated he scared you and your guards are up, when all he had done (unless there is more to the story) is pay attention to what you say, and showed interest in you.
There’s more to the story. I explained in previous comment
might be worth asking him
I think honesty is the best way to go. Start asking questions back if you like him, among them some version of “do you fancy me”?
Sounds like he’s into you, or has a very good memory. Some people are just like that.
However you’re going to be making it really difficult for him to do anything by saying you’d be interested but that he confuses you so you’ve put your guards up.
Trust your “guard is up’.
Some people just have Eidetic memorys
its a blessing and a curse
if he is one of them, maybe you can find out first… it doesnt mean he’s interested/attracted just cursed imo.. lol