My gf had this christmas tree last year that she brought to the apartment that she moved out to. (Freshman in Uni at the time) She lived with her brother who went to the same school and her brother’s girlfriend came over and saw the tree that she at the apartment and asked her brother for it. Her brother gave the tree to his girlfriend and my girl is super upset about it.
Her brother’s gf has had the tree for over a year now and my friends and I are saying that we would back her up and that she needs to go get it back. If she doesn’t get it back I think she needs to at least be paid for it. She has asked the gf for the tree back a few times but she just keeps saying no. It’s super upsetting to see her upset like this.
Info: why was her brother able to give away the tree if it was hers?
I don’t really know specifically how it went down, but from what I heard I think she was visiting their apartment and saw the tree (not put up). My girlfriend wasn’t there at their apartment the day that she took it.
What I do know for sure is that my girlfriend bought that when she went shopping with her mom the previous year. It is hers that she paid for with her own money. She did not consent for it to be taken.
Then NTA. Either her brother’s gf, her brother, or both of them are AHs.
Edit: changed your to her
I keep telling her she needs to ask for it back but she doesn’t want her brother’s girlfriend to hate her more than she alr does. I don’t really know why she doesn’t like her. Her brother I think also is telling her to just give it to her.
So what if the gf doesn’t like her? A girl like this is one who tries to act like her bf’s sister’s boss. Your gf should stand up to her and stop letting herself be stomped on.
NTA man, you gotta get her tree back. It’s rightfully your gfs since she paid for it 😭 so get that shi back bro
I don’t know why she’s being so weird about it. It’s infuriating that they just have it up in her unit and the girls in that apartment post it everywhere.
NTA – go get that tree back lol. If brother wants to gift it, he can pay for it.
ESH – if your girlfriend wants this tree back so badly she can confront her brother herself and demand HE get it back or compensate her. It isn’t your place to get involved in her family dispute.
Her brother is the biggest AH for giving it away.
What is it with her brother that he thinks he can give things that belong to other people away? I hope she’s not still living with him. Maybe she needs to take something of his that is worth a similar amount and tell him she’s going to sell it if he doesn’t pay her for the tree. Did that awful gf also take the ornaments? They cost a fortune. Did she speak to her parents about what he did?
It wasn’t her brother’s to give away in the first place! He needs to get it back or give her the money for it. He’s a thief!
NTA
That tree wasn’t her brother’s to give away.
I don’t think you’ll ever get it back for her, though ☹️
Why isn’t her brother getting it back?? He did it, he can fix it. Also, it is your girlfriend’s responsibility to address this with her brother.
Take it back the fastest the better! It’ll be more difficult when it’s already decorated. NTA