Pretty low stakes situation but I figured I’d ask. Bought 5 tickets to brother’s band concert, $18ea. 2 for me and partner, 1 for mom, 2 for sister and her boyfriend. I don’t mind paying for mom and sister, but sister’s BF is too far. The $18 won’t be the end of the world, but none of us are rich by any means and I simply don’t want to pay for him. I want to ask her to pay me back for his ticket, but wondering if I should just avoid any possible drama and just ask for the $$ for both of their tickets. I am not at all close enough with the BF to ask him directly. Sister’s emotional reactions to some things are variably unpredictable at times. She will not be offended if I ask for both of their $$ (doesn’t like owing people money) but she is still my little sister and I truly don’t mind paying for her portion.
sounds like a classic case of sibling financial fog. just ask her for the bf’s ticket, if she’s cool with not owing anyone, she’ll get it. avoid the drama, in the end, you’re all going to the same concert anyway.
honestly, asking her to pay you back for her bf’s ticket seems pretty reasonable. if she gets mad, just remind her it’s not like you bought him a yacht or something.
NTA.
Quite common thing to do. Your kindness extends to the people you’re close to, not the case of her bf.
INFO
Did you ask if her boyfriend wanted to go in the first place? Was this a gift?
Oh yeah, sorry! She asked me to buy their tickets so we could all be seated together.
NTA if she asked, when you have grounds to ask for her to pay for both herself and him. My general rule of thumb: is I OFFER, then it’s on me, I’m out the money. But, if you ASK, then I have every right to ask for you to pay me back. It might also just be simpler to ask for the worth of birth they’re tickets as well.
This is your answer, u/bluexplus
If she asked you to buy the tickets for her, it was inferred that she would reimburse you for the tickets.
I hope y’all enjoy the concert!
You’re definitely NTA then. Its perfectly okay to expect to not have to pay for your sister’s boyfriends if she asked you to buy them together
You wouldn’t be wrong at all. I’d just make it easy on yourself and ask your sister for both tickets together instead of separating hers from her boyfriend’s. That keeps it one simple conversation and avoids making it weird with him directly. You’re already being generous by covering your mom and your sister. Her boyfriend’s ticket is extra, and it’s reasonable not to want to absorb that too. If she doesn’t mind paying, this is probably the cleanest way to handle it.
YWBTA if you don’t tell her before buying the tickets. Talk with her and tell her you don’t want to pay the bf’s ticket.
Don’t ask, just send a cashapp/venmo request for two tickets.
Did bf ask you to do this? Did he actually want to go to your brothers concert? Doesn’t seem like he agreed to pay before you went and bought tickets YTA