This is definitely on the weirder side, sorry. This has been an issue for me for a while now, mostly in the morning. He’ll just walk around with a very, very very visible erection and act like nothing is weird, until it randomly goes away after a while. I really don’t want to seem like a weirdo, I’m not trying to look at it at all, it’s just impossible not to notice it every time, and obviously it makes me feel pretty awkward.
I’m a girl, I don’t have a penis but I do know a little about morning wood, I get that he’s not doing it on purpose and he can’t control it. But like, it’s still a little uncomfortable to me? I’ve been thinking about asking him to do something about it, like hiding it better, or staying in his room until it goes down, or "taking care of it", but that seems like such a weird conversation to have (especially with that last one) and I also don’t want to be an asshole. I don’t want to be bitchy about someone else’s body, I feel like I would be complaining about and bringing up stuff that’s none of my business, trying to ask him to "solve" something private to him (that I also straight up have no experience with at all and never will). But yeah that’s kind of it, would I be the asshole for confronting him about the morning wood and asking him to do something about it?
YWNBTA
What is he wearing to make it so obvious? Just his boxers? It is really inappropriate to walk around shared spaces with a visible erection. There are ways to cover that shit up. Covering with hands or laundry. Wearing jeans or other non-loose clothing. Tucking it into waistband. Or like you said, waiting for it to die down or whatever before venturing out. But for the love of god don’t tell him to “take care of it” as that is a barforific thing to hear a sibling say.
Have you spoken to any other family members about it?
INFO:
Does he have pants on?
He’s doing it on purpose. Generally it goes away after you use the restroom.
Also a normal person wouldn’t walk through the house with family sporting wood.
NTA but consider trying to have your parents tell him. It also doesn’t need to be about erections, just about not going without pants.
I would “confront” him. It doesn’t need to be a serious conversation. Next time it happens I’d just say “can you please put your di*k away”, or whatever word is appropriate for his age. He may just not be that aware of it.
I would just say “dude put that nasty thing away.” Just enough sibling shaming to make sure he never does it again and will be aware
If you’re young enough to live with your brother, are you still at your parents’ house? Can they deal with it?
Otherwise just mock and humiliate him every day until he stops
Hey, please tell your parents. This isn’t okay of him.
In my opinion: NTA
Hey “brothers name”, so this is really embarrassing, and I hate having to say this. I understand you can’t control it and it just happens, but a lot of the time I can’t help, but notice your morning wood. I really don’t want to see it, and I’m asking you, and would really appreciate it if you wore something to better hide the fact that you have an erection. I tried just living with it, and saying nothing, but it’s really making me uncomfortable seeing my brother this way.“
YWBTA in my opinion. Not because he should be doing this or anything but because you should have a parent/guardian talk to him about it. Just say to whoever, “You need to talk to brother about walking around with an erection”
This is, like, the whole thing about having parents and guardians. You don’t need to talk to your brother about his junk.
In my home it was very normal to walk arround in underwear after a shower or in the morning or even naked since we had a sauna.
In 19 years of living there, my brother, dad and me all managed to not have a boner in front of mom and sis.
I have lived with/around father and brother and a bf and I can confirm I have never seen anyone walking around w a boner. It is definitely weird on his part. NTA. It’s clearly not a comfortable subject but you should speak with a parent and they can talk with him.
NTA. Just because we can’t help things that are totally natural doesn’t mean they don’t make others uncomfortable. I wouldn’t leave a dirty pad/tampon somewhere for all to see, for example. You’re also family. This can be a bit awkward but is also the best place to have these convos.