About 4 months ago a friend of mine got married.
While doom scrolling on facebook I happend upon a short video from a DJ’s point of view. In it a seemingly drunk and angry man (about 50-60ish years old) approaches him and threaten to spill liquids all over his electrical equipment if he won’t play him a song he likes. In the video the face of the man is censored, not his voice, and it shows several times when the old man approaches him and get angrier. Until finally the dj finds the right moment to play the song he asked. After that the angry man comes to shake his hand and leaves.
A moment of shock hit me when i realized i recognise the place, and the people in the background. A quick check of the photos from that friend’s wedding affirmed what i suspected, that this is my friends wedding.
That video got more views than any other of that dj’s videos about 100k.
I really want to tell my friend about it but i dont know if i should. On one hand i think he deserves to know about it, but on the other it may just cause some drama that could have been avoided and forgotten faster than the next viral video in the feed.
Wibta for telling him about it?
Why get involved in this? Especially since you don’t know what was in the contract? Maybe the DJ is allowed to post content. YWBTA
Not sure if this is really a AH situation at all. What do you gain from telling him? He has every right to post the video as well.
What are you hoping to accomplish by telling him about it? All you are going to do is cause drama where there is no need for it. YWBTA
Nothing to be gained by telling your friend. Just let it die.
Don’t tell him. He’ll just get really embarrassed, and it’ll sour the memory of the day.
YWBTA. Your friend wants to remember his wedding a lovely day, not for this kind of nastiness. Dont ruin it for him. It’s a shame cos the aggressive guy deserves to be called out, but he already has been even if he’s not aware of it. 100k people think hes a prick.
Leave it alone. What is there to gain from telling him?
I’m not sure what the point of it would be? Are you trying to get the DJ in trouble for posting your friend’s wedding without their permission? Or are you trying to get the blurred out guy in trouble with your friend for being an ass at his wedding? I’m just not sure what you’re trying to accomplish here.
The DJ had every right to post that video, and he blurred out the face, so I don’t really think the DJ did anything wrong.
If you’re trying to call out the wedding guest, I mean, I guess you can… but I still don’t really know what the point of it would be.
Your friend probably paid a fortune to have their wedding. It’s supposed to be the best day of their life…. if they were blissfully unaware that this happened, I would just let it go. Why ruin the image they had of the great time they had?
I would. I’d be like “omg is this your wedding? lol looks like someone can’t hold their liquor.” Obviously that behavior is unacceptable and it was likely a close relative of the bride and groom. If I hosted a party and someone was aggressive to the DJ I’d want to know.
Why would you NOT tell him?
It’s online, for the entire world to see.
This is not an AITAH situation, BTW. I wouldn’t go out of my way to tell him. As far as anyone else knows, this is very anonymous. Telling your friend only has the potential to cause trouble.
Weird situation.
What would it accomplish to tell them? If the DJ didn’t care to bring it up, the DJ doesn’t expect anything to be done. What could the couple do about it now? Do they have to regularly associate with the person who acted like this? If it’s someone they’re close to, they might appreciate knowing. If not, it was just a stupid drunk asshole who happened to be a guest and there isn’t anything to be gained, only a negative memory added.
I understand others’ responses saying the day is behind you at this point and your friend surely wants to remember the day positively. In my opinion however, it would make sense to share this info with your friend. I don’t personally feel this will erase or taint his happy memories, and I think if the groom has someone in his circle who would act like this, he should be aware for the future. I am guessing there might have been some liability that fell on whomever hired the DJ for that event IF the rude guest had damaged the DJ’s equipment, though I’m not positive about that. I think your friend and his family have a right to know and to plan accordingly for any future situations involving this guest.
Imagine if, months down the line, you hear from your friend of some huge fallout at another celebration spurred by this rude guest, and you’ll have known there were warning signs about this person’s behavior but said nothing. I don’t see the harm in telling and I do see benefit so to me, YWNBTA for sharing this discretely, tactfully, and sensitively, as a ‘just thought you might want to be aware of the behavior of this guest for future events…’
I’m on team Shame the Awful Wedding Guest. YWNBTA