I am currently composing a slideshow of my late sister’s life for her funeral. The photos span from birth until now. My mom and I have 3-4 photos that include my sister, my mom, and her dad around ages 0/3
\- For instance, a photo of them holding her at her baptism, a family photo at 1 years old, and her first birthday (them holding her).
For context, the new wife of the dad has asked to not include photos of the mom and dad with my sister and to simply omit them (going as far as telling me I shouldn’t be dwelling on it). My mom and my sister’s dad have been split since she was little, and she was in her 30s when she passed. The new wife has been in the picture since late 2010s and both parties (mom and her dad, have had little contact since).
WIBTA to keep the photos (3-4) in that include my deceased sister, my mom, and her dad as they have no romantic symbolism but rather are a memory from the past?
New wife shouldn’t have married someone who’d been married before if she couldn’t handle it. NTA.
NTA. The new wife can stay home. You go right ahead and honor your sister as you wish.
Edit: Thank you for the award!
Right? She needs to sit right the fuck down and remember that this is not about her and her obviously fragile ego. And to be told before the event in no uncertain terms that a single huff out of her and she’s tossed out. I’m livid on OPs behalf.
NTA. Holy cow NTA. These moments are part of your sister’s life and worthy of inclusion. The audacity to ask that is astounding. Don’t let her make this about herself instead of your sister.
I’m so so sorry for your loss. May your sister’s memory be a blessing.
THIS OP’s sister’s funeral is not about her dads new wife.
NTA. This isn’t about his new wife, this is about your late sister. If she’s uncomfortable with it she doesn’t have to come. I would honestly tell her it’s pretty sad that a grown woman has to make a funeral about her.
I am married to a divorced man who has three children with his ex. We have been married for slightly longer than this man and his wife.
If my step child died and someone else was putting together pictures of their life, I would expect these pictures of their mom and dad with them. I would hope to have pictures with me too- but I am not the focus here. This is the woman’s family and she has two parents.
I think the step mom is being ridiculous.
NTA, as a step Mom, the new wife needs to stay in her lane and keep her mouth shut!!!
This is a slideshow of your sister’s life. Her stepmom has no business asking you to delete pictures of her biological mother.
Also, there are going to be only a few pictures where your mom is seen and many that have the stepmom with your sister. There is some real bad jealousy that’s showing up here on the stepmom’s part.
NTA if you include the pictures you mentioned
I’m so sorry for your loss!
The funeral is about your sister, and the pictures are showing your precious sister’s life, not the new wife. If she can’t handle seeing that part of your sister’s life, she can look away or stay home.
NTA
A word of advice we were given on the slide show for our mums funeral. Don’t do them in chronological order, it’s just building to the inevitable. Mix them up. Also NTA you can’t erase these people from her life.
Oh that’s huge and never though of that (chronological order)
NTA If she’s insecure about photos at her husband’s CHILD’s FUNERAL* she’s a real piece of work
Here’s what I’m going to say:
I once dated an incredibly controlling and insecure man. I deleted 4 yrs of pictures of my previous relationship because I didn’t want to deal with his meltdown. I rarely regret things but I regret that so much – not because I wanted pictures of my ex but because I deleted *four years of MY LIFE* for the comfort of someone else. I *existed* before that person was in my life. I *deserve* my memories and my experiences. I will never *erase myself* for someone else again.
So you consider what your sister would have chosen. And you consider what is important to you. Insecure people can stuff a sock in their mouth or walk out the door. NTA.