So I [21F] am getting married this year and I announced I would be getting married this year two years ago…
And I already told my family on my mother’s side no kids, I have quite a few cousins with kids and I was understanding if they couldn’t make it due to the factor…but due to me asking for this a rumour spread that I was going to kick my mom out of the wedding after she brought my cake and dress…I didn’t even ask her to buy it…my mom insisted she would buy it for me since her mom, my gran did it for her [I don’t think she will due to her own finances I’m not horribly meaning this I have young siblings still she takes care off] thankfully my mom know I wasnt going to do that and it was rumor.
Then there is my dad’s side, my dad passed away last year….and he was happy I was going to be married and only asked one thing for me before I passed…I wore a dress nothing to do with my hair…[This will make sense why I said this]
So I agreed to wear a dress because I was originally going to wear a suit due to feeling more confident…now my family on my dad’s side said I should grow my hair back long and natural…I don’t want that and I plan to go for dark green short hair style for my wedding due to my theme on my end being black and green and my fiancée to be black and red…and there are other matters that I don’t think will matter if I said them that also makes me not want to invite them the only family I wish to invite is my mom, step mom and step siblings, my little brother and sister and my mom’s boyfriend and my fiancée who ever he wishes to invite
[And yes my mom gave me her blessing to not invite my mom’s side to the drama]
((I’m going to clarify this due to people think I’m immature due to my age…me and my fiancée are collage sweethearts, 6 years when we will get married and we lived together simce we were both 16 not with parents by are self’s due to both not being close with are parents))
(And I apologise for any misspellings I’m dyslexic)
So WIBTA if I didn’t invite 90% of my family
You seem way too mmature to get married. To answer your question, you can invite or not invite whomever you want, but be prepared to face the consequences.
NTA Your wedding so you and fiance get to make the guest list. I think small weddings are nice.
NTA – invite or don’t invite to your wedding anyone you wish. It is your wedding and your rules.
Just be prepared to hear the negative comments if that matters and that you may get LC or NC from many.
Anyone who would go NC or LC over a micro wedding isn’t worth having around. I didn’t even invite my siblings to my wedding and no one made a stink. My brother didn’t invite kids and people managed it maturely.
We have to stop normalizing adult tantrums when they don’t like other people’s life choices.
Fair take. People forget choices have fallout. She’s allowed to protect her peace, but cutting that many relatives will change relationships permanently, whether she’s in the right or not. Just something to sit with before sending invites.
You dont have to invite anyone. There might be some backlash but from people who were already spreading rumours and trying to control your wedding. It’s your wedding. Have the wedding you want
NTA
Its your wedding day, you and the person you marry get to decide who is there. No one else should get a say.
YTA. You sound too immature to be considering marriage.
if they can’t respect you, they shouldn’t have access to y’all, either they can sit there shut the fuck up and be happy for yall with whatever you decide to do because, it is in fact, YOUR day, NOT theirs, they can go have their own wedding and make their own decisions for theirs, and respect YOURS and how you choose to go about it. Boundaries are the most important thing to have and it’s very important you have standards for how you should be treated and you dont tolerate anything less.
YTA for getting married when you can’t even type properly.
NTA, I invited 6 people to my wedding and it was glorious. Invite the people you care about and forget the rest
NTA. It’s your wedding not the family’s. You have it how you want – your rules. Invite who you want and just because someone is related in some way is not a valid reason to have to invite them.
You and your fiancee’s wedding. Your guest list. Your rules.
NTA.
At our wedding, though we both have pretty “traditional” families when it comes to weddings, we had a non-religious “hand binding” ceremony with readings from Terry Pratchett’s “Guards! Guards!” instead of Bible readings(traditional in our culture). Only a few very close friends and immediate family were invited.
Bride wore blue with purple hair, groom wore purple(with no hair lol).
The ceremony was in a mountaintop amphitheater in Colorado.
Our Recessional song was “I Believe In A Thing Called Love” by The Darkness.
Our reception was a party in a private room in a pub. No first dance, no speeches, no cake(we did pie instead).
At the end, our very traditional families all told us how beautiful the ceremony was, and how much fun they had both at the ceremony and the reception, and how it was very much “us”. Which in their estimation was how it should be.
All that to say: Your day. Make it represent you.