I live with an older woman (60s). A family friend’s mom.
Lately everyday I come home from work the house heater is set at 80° (we live in Texas) and when I turn it down to about 72, all hell breaks loose. She came home close to midnight drunk cussing and yelling at me through the door about how cold it is and proceeded to crank the heat back up. She also likes to slam every cabinet and door she can knowing I’m trying to sleep for work. Every night. Ive tried having multiple conversations with her but nothing improved. I’ve been staying in hotels every other night just to get some sleep for work.
I found out she lied to me about how much rent is and after doing all the math, she has been way over charging me and I’m basically paying all the rent and bills.
I’m not on any lease or paperwork. Is it best for me to just leave as soon as I can?
Yeah, get out of there. NTA. Check local laws to make sure you’re not on the hook for anything even without an official lease though.
Good idea! Thank you!
Omfg get out ASAP what a disaster.
Yeah I would get my things in order and get into a place,
No I think she’s going to be pissed though about losing the income.
I got a storage unit and have slowly been moving my stuff into there until I save some more money for an apartment
NTA. If you’re not on a lease and she’s overcharging while making the place miserable, you don’t owe her advance notice to protect your own sanity.
NTA
Have you mentioned any of this to your family friend? You definitely don’t want to leave them out of the loop.
For your own good, get the heck out, but make it known so it doesn’t come back to bite you.
Yea I tried reaching out and at first they were somewhat understanding but now they took her side and said she was told the opposite and I’m the one causing all the problems.
ugh. As long as your family (who knows them) knows, that’s really all that matters. Unfortunately, it may put a wedge in the relationship, but your sanity is worth more than anyone‘s feelings.
I read in another comment that you’re slowly moving your stuff out. Move as much of your stuff out and give a 30 day notice. That way you don’t completely damage the relationship with the family friend.
But theoretically, you can move out without giving notice because there’s no established lease.
You should have ditched a while ago. You’re not on the lease, you have no obligation to pay, gtfo.