i (32) am taking a trip with my partner’s (31) siblings (45, 43) and their respective families/kids. we’ve been together for quite a long time, we’ve done a few of these family trips together already and we all get along great.
i’m trying to talk my partner into flying in a couple of days early, so we can have some time to ourselves to do our own thing, without kids around.
my plan is to pop the question during these first few days alone. that way, we can have our little private moment, it isn’t foist upon everyone else on their vacation, and also my partner gets some time to show off her new ring to everyone all at once.
is this shitty? does this steal some of everyone’s thunder? should i give her siblings a heads up that im planning on doing it?
NTA and no head’s up needed.
You can’t steal thunder no one else is having.
Just make sure you’re pretty sure she’ll say yes to avoid an awkward vacation.
I am puzzled by your question “*does this steal some of everyone’s thunder*?”
It’s a vacation. It’s not a wedding, a birthday, a graduation, or anything else significant. It’s just a vacation.
And you wouldn’t even be doing it when other people are present. You’d be doing it in private, a day or two before they even arrive.
So what thunder is there to steal?
NTA.
This is what makes me wonder if there’s something else to the vacation. So, OP, is this just a family vacation, or is it to celebrate something?
That sounds fine to me, but if you are really worried call the siblings and ask them their thoughts. NTA
Steal thunder away from what? Assuming this vacation isn’t celebrating a specific person’s milestone or accomplishment that you haven’t mentioned, it’s totally fine. NTA