So my friend started a new job this year and I’ve been picking up her son and bringing him to my house until she returns and gets him as he’s in same school as my daughter. I don’t have a problem with this. Last week Friday she asked me to drop the boy at home with her husband and I was like ‘oh he didn’t work today’ and I was shocked what she replied. He works only 3days a week(Monday-Wednesday). When I asked why he doesn’t pick up his son on the days he off, maybe from my place if he can’t go to school she didn’t give any answer and just seemed to find it normal which was odd. Mind you she gets to the house first before coming to mine for the boy which takes about 30mins.
Now I told her if there’s no good reason for what’s happening, I won’t take the boy from school on Thursdays and Fridays anymore. She has to talk to her husband to become more responsible for his own child and she’s making me out like a bad person saying things like ‘you’re doing it for me not my husband, you shouldn’t worry about him’.
Now I know I might be the asshole because I’m doing this just because I think her husband is neglecting some responsibility and think he should help and maybe that’s not my business as some people might say.
Personally I have no problem taking the boy anytime. So WIBTA if I refuse to take him on those days or just suck it up as my friend says.
NTA her husband is a deadbeat and she’s taking advantage of you. If I were you’d I’d stop looking after her kid full stop
NTA.
That’s when you say okay I’m not doing it at all.
NTA, sounds like husband is being an asshole and avoiding doing his part. i feel bad for your friend that she’s married to the guy. but if they want daily pickups when he’s available they need to hire a nanny. don’t keep doing it!
NTA her husband is a loser and I genuinely feel bad for your daughter having to see him most days, poor thing’s social battery must be completely drained
Wow. She could have offered that her husband pick up your daughter on Thursdays and Fridays to make the who thing more equitable, but instead it’s on you to provide after-school care?
I would re-think this friendship.
NTA
This! Even if he decides to do it on Fridays alone I can accept he wants to rest all day on Thursday lol
NTA It is one thing for a husband to buy his free time on his wife’s labour, quite another when he starts outsourcing even that.
Absolutely NTA and with that level of selfish entitlement, I would not be watching him at all. Your friend is not actually your friend, she’s just using you
NTA you might be ‘doing it for her’, but that was to help her out when you believed she NEEDED that help. If her husband is at home and available, she doesn’t NEED your help, her husband can pick up HIS kid and actually be a parent, rather than outsourcing it to you
Guy’s probably too busy playing his video games to stop for a pickup.
NTA
Husband should pick up his kid and yours on his day off.
Why is she making it out to be a big thing? Is he legally not allowed near schools?
NTA
You’re providing free childcare two days a week while he does what, exactly?
NTA I ended up being my kids’ friends’ taxi service. This ended when I drove my son and the kid across the street to basketball practice, and when I went to pick them up, the kid across the street had already been picked up by the dad.
I would have appreciated him letting me know so 1 I wouldn’t wait around for the kid or worry about him, and 2 I could have asked him to pick up my kid, since I had been driving his kid around a lot.