Edit:so I sent a text to my mom to ask her if would be okay to send a list.over for ideas, I’m hoping it doesn’t stress her out as well as hope that it goes well š I’m not one to throw a fit if things don’t go the way I want, just mainly worried about stressing her out by bringing it up. I’ll keep you all updated on how it went.
So as the title says, my birthday is coming up in 2 to 3 weeks(dec 12) and Ive been coming up with ideas for what I want. The thing is, I’m worried about mentioning gift related stuff to my mom since she tends to worry quite a bit about the holidays, espeically when it comes to gifts so I don’t want to bother her with that kind of stuff.
Another thing that doesn’t help my concerns is that the thing I’m asking for is a bit pricey, and knowing how the economy is rn, I don’t wanna put that kind of pressure on my parents to buy it for me(the thing I was wanting was a switch 2 with persona 3 reload cause I’ve been pretty excited about its release on switch but currently don’t have the switch 2)
My parents, and espeically my mom are super nice when it comes to holiday gifts, so it’s not like they would get mad if I asked for stuff, I just don’t want to come off like I’m veruca salt up in here asking for a golden egg.
Im thinking of letting her know that I’m fine with waiting till christmas and that there’s no pressure to buy something that expensive(kinda do that anyways when I ask for stuff š ) but I wanted to see what others thought about this. Would I be the asshole for asking my parents for a switch 2 and persona 3 reload for my birthday/christmas?
TL;DR: I feel bad for considering asking my parents for a switch 2 and persona 3 reload for my birthday/Christmas because it’s expensive and don’t wanna stress them out.
NTA ask her first if she would like some suggestions.
That’s actually not a bad idea honestly, might bring that up with her whenever I get the chance. She tends to work most of the week so hoping to get a chance to. They did get me a switch 1 and animal crossing for my birthday a few years ago, but the switch 2 price is where I’m hesitant to ask. Hoping it goes on sale lol
NTA. Nice thought. If she is open to suggestions then go for it!
Thank you š I appreicate your thoughts on this, she’s pretty open to gift idea suggestions(got me a couple games 3 months ago) so I hope I’m not asking for too much as far as the priceyness goes. I did get a switch lite + animal crossing new horizons for my bday(from both parents) so maybe they might be open to the idea of a switch 2. Just wasn’t sure if I should wait to ask or if I should send her the list and hope for the best, I’m pretty notorious in my family for having unintentionally crappy timing lol
NTA. However as you mentioned, the economy isnāt so great and weāre unaware of your parentās financial standing so a console system might be pricey/out of range or they might appreciate you giving them a heads up to bundle it for christmas.
Yeah true, I might try and give them a heads up at least for christmas. My parents both have jobs thankfully(my mom stated working a few months ago, were not rich of course, but it’s been a little more stable than it was before financial wise, mainly concerned about the timing, cause I don’t wanna ask too early after.thanksgiving and stuff, I know holidays can be pretty hectic.
NTA Ask her if it would be easier to give her a list of things that you want/need during these occasions. I know that it is easier for my daughter to give me one. A list helps to ensure that I purchase things that she really wants/likes. I know that you really want a switch so, telling them now might make it easier to save or find one on sale for the holiday.
Yeah that’s true, I heard that the switch 2 can be hard to find,.espeically around the holidays, might be easier to just ask earlier. I actually have a list set up in my keep notes, but didn’t know if it would be rude to send my mom that(my mom works most of the week, so hoping to get a chance to bring it up, but didn’t wanna send it while she is working)
NTA. You can definitely send a gift list-itās just giving your mom ideas, not pressure. Just make it clear thereās no rush and youāre fine waiting if needed. Keeps it low-stress for her.
Thanks, I appreciate the feedback truly šusually i let her know that I dont want her to feel pressured to buy stuff for me whenever I ask for stuff anyways, I just know that she’s a really giving person and tends to feel guilty or pressured because of said guilt to get those kind of things(most of the pressure she puts on herself) so I don’t want to ask in a way that comes off like “lol I know your stressed at work but like can you buy me this?okay thanks š”
I’ll be keeping your advice in mind and I’m hoping that it helps ease the stress if I do ask.
OMG, I looked up the cost of a Switch 2 and it’s $449, that’s expensive!!!! And the persona 3 reload is between $59.99 to $89.99 depending on which version is purchased!!! You mentioned that your Mom recently started working so you really don’t know what their finances are like. I feel bad for your Mom because I can just imagine how stressed she’s going to be about your gift requests. My birthday is December 21 and I was always extremely thankful that my parents always gave me one gift for my birthday and one gift for Christmas. Most people are not so lucky. Maybe revisit your gift list and let your Mom know that a gift card towards one of those items would be better.
I definely agree, it’s pretty expensive from what I seen I’m like jesus š it’s kinda what drove me to make a post on this sub.wasn’t wanting the deluxe version for that reasn. Also I definetly can relate to being grateful for my parents doing stuff for Christmas, I’m not one to ask for this kind of stuff every year to be honest,I’m more of a “I’m happy with a meal and some time with my family” kind of person (last year I mainly asked for chicken Alfredo and some pie,made sure to let them know that it meant and still means a lot) so Im pretty hesitant to ask for something like this. I’m sorry if my post came off the wrong way, not the best with wording things ngl.
I’ll make sure to bring up the gift card thing like you mentioned, sounds alot easier and less stressful for my mom,the last thing I want is to add financial pressure on her.
NTA.Ā I often ask my son for lists, as does his dad.Ā As long as she doesn’t object, you are all good.