So I live with a few roommates. I don’t talk to my family and therefore the holidays are always harder for me. Earlier in November I asked my roommate if we wanted to do thanksgiving together since she had no plans at that time. We agreed to split the cost and kinda went on about our ways. My birthday is before thanksgiving but after our initial conversation.
I didn’t get anything other than a text on my birthday. I’m not a materialistic person but I’d be lying if I said I didn’t sting that my roommates that call themselves my friends didn’t even try to do anything. 1 text that’s it. I at least got them something for their birthday and asked if they wanted to do something. Anyways fast forward to last Thursday the conversation about Thanksgiving came back up. Apparently in the mean time my roommate decided to move the dinner to someone else’s house with more people most of whom I don’t know.
I have anxiety and at the very least need to be involved in the change of plans for me to not have a panic attack. My roommate knows this. I then said it’s okay and I was just going to stay home. My roommate assumed I was going to be okay with simply being picked up for dinner and to be stuck there until whatever time we’d end up going back home.
I simply said I’ll just do my own thing because I don’t want to deal with panic attacks when staying home would keep my peace.
AITA for not going and no longer paying half for dinner I’m not part of nor do I expect to receive a plate etc?
NAH
If the plans have changed, it’s okay to back out.
But I do think you’re a little juvenile expecting more than a text from your roommates for your birthday.