Sorry for any mistakes, english is not my first language. I, 19F, am having a lot of problems with my mother,41F, lately. My mother and I never had the best relationship due to her losing my custody when i was eight, afther my grandma died (she had my custody back then) because of substances. I lived with my godmother, who discovered i had a death benefit in my grandma’s name (5500, monthly).
I came to live with my mother when i was almost 14, and we fought almost every day because of how bad the house was. She was a manipulative person and was also in a abusive relationship, so bad that she used all of the money with her boyfriend and his kids. Now, i live with her and my boyfriend, and we are considering moving out soon because of how bad she treats me. She thinks that she has a right to use my credit card, my money and my things anf almost every month she asks me to borrow money and thinks that she is entitled to it. Mind you, she still keeps the money for the benefit (even though i should already have control over it) and has a good job.
We talked last month about the money and she agreed to give me 700 from the benefit, after saying to me that she would never forgive me if i took the money from her and moved out, but i am really tired of this. I talked about the situation to some friends and family and they all say that money is not everything, but i dont think its about the money anymore, i just wished she was a mother to me and I just really want someone to say that im not crazy for wanting to move out and never talk to her again, even though i really love her, and am the only person that she has.
NTA move out ASAP and keep the benefit for yourself. It was meant for you. Your mom has spent enough of it over the years. If your grandmother wanted your mom to have it, she would have left it to your mom.
Use that money to start the life your grandmother wanted you to have and stop living your life for a mother who has never treated you well.