WIBTA, I(f18) caught him(m20) using weird ai waifu apps along with watching hundreds of tabs of porn and im feeling alot of feelings like "how can he be so hypocritical" and also "why can’t I have erotic fun but he can, just because its not real people doesn’t mean its any different" from the beginning of our relationship I told him I felt its cheating and he agreed while doing that shit behind my back…and now i have the very strong almost undeniable urge to cheat on him and it only gets worse day by day I think about the words he said to me when I found his porn "did you find what you wanted to find" mind you i had literally caught him on onlyfans and he gaslight me into believing it was an old account and he had no idea how he had an email login for it(I knew it was total bullshit) its just weird because I enjoy his presence and I do think I still love him but the thought of him jerking off to random women in OUR bathroom while im less than 10 feet away makes me want to GO find a nice man and RIDE HIS DICK OFF, It genuinely makes me so fucking upset and its more of the betrayal than anything I had asked him in the beginning if he watched porn and he lied to me. Our entire relationship has been full of shit the entire time BECAUSE OF HIM. And yes im blaming him because what kind of person says "damn shes bad as fuck I’d hit" about an actress in a horror film while your GIRLFRIEND is laying on you…that was literallyin the beginning of the relationship. Im not insecure ik im perfectly fine how i am I just wanna get even and its the first time I’ve ever felt like being unfaithful. I just need to know WIBTA if I get even.
If him watching porn is a dealbreaker, and he doesn’t want to stop watching porn (which seems to be the case), just break up with him. YTA to yourself if you decide to torture yourself by staying in a relationship with someone you loathe and then trying to punish him. Very self-destructive. It’s like you are trying to maximize you and your boyfriend’s collective misery.
Break up with him then ride a nice mans dick off.
YWBTA if you cheat instead of just freeing yourself from this guy who’s making you miserable. Be single! Meet someone decent! I believe in you!
Thank you i really appreciate it im very quickly realizing that I do deserve a healthy and happy relationship that isn’t toxic.
WYBTA if you leave him for that? No.
WYBTA if you decide to ‘get even’ and become a cheating hypocrite, yes
Just break up if you two agreed on boundaries and he isn’t willing to stop his porn addiction to respect that boundary.
💯 this. This is grounds for break up. Cheating to get even is extremely immature and says a lot about ops character. It’s hypocritical for one and two shows your vindictive in a way you’re able to do it another relationship. It will absolutely ruin her reputation and make potential partners steer clear of her
Leave him. Duh.
Just leave. If he would rather have his hand on it then be intimate with you, that’s on him. If you’re turning down his every advance, it still doesn’t excuse the OF use, but the porn I understand. Good luck
I’m 18…i have a higher sex drive than he does he told me its literally because he has an “addiction” and that it has nothing to do with me…like bruh its weird😭 id also understand if I was a prude that never put out but I literally do everything he wants.
Yeah, you NTA. Don’t cheat, leave. Go find someone worth your time. You’ll be much happier in the long run. This will only get worse
Alright 🙂 I appreciate the advice lol
It seems like a major deal breaker for both of you, you want him to stop and he doesn’t want to stop. You can break up with him, you can accept his porn/OF enjoyment, or you can do something petty like cheat. If you cheat you would be the AH. If you decide to break up you would not be the AH, you’re not going to be relationship compatible with everyone you have chemistry with and that’s just life.
As for the middle option he’s already shown that regardless of your feelings he’s going to do it. So either you two talk about it and come to some sort of understanding on how to work this into your relationship/sex life or you should move on. Breaking up would not make you the AH.
Thank you its just feeling like a really big decision to make and im quite anxious but ik I’ll be alright 🙂 definitely not working waifu porn or real porn into any relationship id ever be in😭 in kinky but not like that lol
Girl, just dump him. This isn’t complicated.
Yes, YWBTA if you cheat to get even. Just dump him.