Hi, so I (45f) have been Married to my Spouse (54M) for 15 years.
for the last 8 years I have been diagnosed with celiac. It came about from my last pregnancy.
Nobody else in the Family has Celiac.
My SO is diabetic. and his Keto Diet as well as new meds helped him drop from 380lbs to 280lbs.
So Story, Being gluten free is expensive, and it has taken a lot of effort to find a routine that worked for our family and finding ways to cook to keep myself from being contaminated. Sometimes what I do is I buy enough ingredients to make a meal that will last me a week. It’s for work, since I can’t eat the food our job provides.
Now sometimes my husband wants meals that we can eat together and his keto can fit with my celiac. but my Celiac meals do not always fit with his diabetic meds. If there are too many carbs he gets sick.
Yesterday I made myself one of my large meals to last me a week, and I usually make it just before the time I have to pick the youngest up from school. and then my husband will pick the older two up from school an hour later after work. Usually what happens is I make my food I’ll share a little with the youngest boy because he’s a kiddo and you can’t tell them "no" when you make something delicious, then I put the rest away and then make something for everyone else when they get home.
My husband came home early yesterday, Saw me give some to the littlest boy and asked if he could have some. I said "sure, but it’s not what I had planned for you it has a lot of Carbs." and he said he was craving this meal. I went ahead and left him at home and picked up the other 2 kids. When I came back. most of My food was gone. I only had enough to fit into one ziplock snack pack and he was in the bathroom. giving his alms to the porcelain god. Literally my whole week’s worth of food.
We have separate bank accounts. And I don’t make my kids eat Keto or Celiac meals.
so
WIBTA If I make My SO go purchase more ingredients for my week’s meals?
*Edit: things I left out. I forgot that yesterday he had a funeral, and had just gotten back from funeral
We do split bills. He makes 60k ish I make about 16k ish Disability/driver
Without the meals I’ll have protein drinks until payday.
>If there are too many carbs he gets sick
>..and asked if he could have some. I said “sure, but it’s not what I had planned for you it has a lot of Carbs.”
You warned him, and he ate it anyway. *A week’s worth of food??* Are you sure he wasn’t vomiting because he wanted to binge something he really used to enjoy, then forced himself to puke it up? That’s an entirely other thing, dealing with an eating disorder.
Anyway. That’s on him. He should replace the food you prepared.
NTA
I must admit the food itself isn’t the issue and to an extent the puking isn’t either, its the fact that he ate enough food to last a person a week.
Take out the puking and dietary restrictions and the amount alone is justified on asking for replacement, everything else just makes it 1000x worse.
I do agree that there is more to his actions than just his body being unable to handle what he ate, there needs to be more conversation and potentially medical intervention if he has a habit of this.
If he’s on a certain med that is to help him lose weight. If you eat too much on it you get sick. My friend is on it and every time he over eats he pukes. Or if he doesn’t follow the specific diet it makes him sick. Her husband knew and did it anyway. He owes her money and should also help her re prep the food.
She’s Def NTA